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How do I get rid of this pervert?
Scrunchy95 · 22/02/2021 10:10
I am an artist specializing in still life and portraiture. I have a website and have business accounts on Instagram and Facebook. I had a call from a man claiming to be a retiring Ballet dancer wanting a portrait of himself on stage in his ballet gear. He told me a website to google so I could see a photo of him and it was a ballet dancer with the biggest 'packet' I have ever seen. During our discussion, he drew attention to the size of his privates and asked me if I should paint it in a way to draw less attention to it, but really kept the conversation on his groin. His call was number withheld and he told me he doesn't have an email account. The photo had the ballet dancer's name under it so I looked him up on Instagram and messaged him to ask if he had got in touch with me regarding a commission. He told me he hadn't but has had a lot of female artists asking the same thing and had considered getting in touch with the police. I now don't answer my phone when a withheld number calls but he leaves voicemails with him just breathing and I get the impression he is playing with himself. I want to pick up and tell him to fuck off but I have no idea who he is. He has my email and phone number so I don't want to piss him off and have been hoping he will just go away. But this has been going on for months. Does anyone have any idea what I can do? This guy is clearly harassing a number of women and getting away with it.
Scrunchy95 · 22/02/2021 10:22
'MashNgravy Mon 22-Feb-21 10:17:33
Another vote for police. I'd try and coordinate with the person being impersonated and with the other artists so there's more of you and more weight/resources. I'd also definitely answer the phone and tell him to fuck off.'
Thanks for this. Good advice. I will get in touch with the dancer again and see if he is willing to share the details of the other artists so I can get in touch with them and report all of the cases to the police.
Scrunchy95 · 22/02/2021 12:08
I got back in touch with the dancer on instagram and he has given me the names of 5 other artists and sculptors who have contacted him about the same man. I have messaged them all to say I would like to take this to the police and I am slowly hearing back from them all.
DayBath · 26/03/2021 20:44
Arabella beat me to it, it would be very painful to his ear if you blasted some awful speaker feedback noise or kept a spoon and saucepan by the phone to bash loudly and repeatedly. That would take the shine off his wank session. You can still do that whilst reporting to the police and logging the times of the calls.
DaSilvaP · 08/05/2022 19:30
Before going to the police collect as much information as you can, don't delete any email or call log. If you can record all the calls. If the police really put their weight into it there is no "hidden number" or " anonymous account" - 99% of the time it can all be traced.
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