I had to take my friend to a psychiatric hospital on thursday evening

[TrinityIsFuckingTrying]

she is convinced that she has to kill hersef for everyone else to be ok
as she has messed them all up and should never have been on this earth

I begged her to go to the docs

stupidly let her drive away on her own, she promised me she would go straight to the docs

then I realised my stupidity and went to find her

she was drinking straight vodka(litre bottle three quarters of the way down in a bout 30 mins) to get up the courage to go in to the docs
I dragged her in, told her to be honest

she spewed out all the awfulness in her head and he gave me documents to get her booked in tp a psychiatric hospital

It was hell, she drank the rest of the vodka on the 40 min drive, the doc had given her pills to calm her too.
she was distraught, begging me to let her just go away and die

she has been in before but didn't tell them the truth

she has now promised to tell the truth, has admitted to the amount she drinks so will be admmitted to rehab after assesment where she is now

she sounds so scared and wobbly now(I spoke to her on the phone)

I feel awful as I put her there

but I couldn't not do anything

and she needs more help than I can give her

without a doubt

thankyou everyone

but thankyou policybabe for sharing
MIND, I may look into that
thankyou

Trinity, I can guarantee you've done the right thing, and have saved her life, she may not be here now if it weren't for you.
No matter what guilt she makes you feel just remember, she's struggling to cope without the drink and drugs so will say and do anything to get out of hospital, knowing deep down though that it is the right thing really.
As long as you are always there for her no matter what she says or does, just knowing you care will mean so much, an she will thank you in her own way.

you've donet the absolute right thing

from what you've said, i have little doubt, if you'd not, she would be dead

she will, in the long term, appreciate and be thankul for this

well done, amazing you had the strength to do this, when you are going through so much

shows how amazing and resilient you are , trin

thankyou

Just noticed this - Trinity, I'll just twenty-second what everyone else has said - of course you did the right thing, and really there is/was nothing else you could do right now. Harsh as it may seem, you have to keep yourself and your children as your first priority just now, and from what you said earlier in the thread, it seems like you're still doing a great job with that.
Your friend is in the best place, and will be getting the help she needs, and that's the most important thing for her. Well done you for getting her there.
(And for all the other stuff, and if you've stopped swearing, then that's better than me - I seem to be slipping up these days! )
Still on top of the dishes and laundry??

still on top of laundry, dishes, tidyness, reading to the children

but I have done something awful..

I have stolen your lovely tupperware tubs

and I dont want to give them back

(shoot me now!)

Oh heavens, you were supposed to keep those! I have too many that size anyway, and no longer have a big enough freezer for doing big batch cooking. they're from Lakeland if you want to increase your collection !

Do have a gold star for all your on-top-of-ness .

And I'm sorry to be stalking you but I did promise to nag . . .
you are welcome to invite me to fornicate off at any time, whenever you get fed up of me.
Or look at it as an opportunity to show off your acheivements, without bragging at all, you're just answering my queries!

oooh I love lakeland stuff

have alwasy stopped myself from buying though

oooh yay I get to keep them

THANKS

stuff still tidy

washing being done every day

folded straight out of the dryer and taken upstairs

I cooked spag bol for the kids yesterday

one of your tubs is just the perfect sixe for keeping the cheese in in the fridge
cause someone keeps not wrapping it back up properly(mention no names......craig ) and it stays fresh in your tub

got the drain bill to pay today
need to find my driving licence (paper bit) too

procurator fiscal has been in touch and the FAI is being prepared but wont be before march

but I do have to start thiknig about how I'm going to be there but without the kids

also have to ring solicitor

hows you

oh and I do have a confession
you're going to shout at me
I dont know how to sort it
I really dont
Its been a problem for years

I dont shower enough
my hair is matted. greasy
I smell
can remember the last time I showered

WHY cant I sort that

the house is great, I'm hovvering, swish and swiping, tidying, wiping, dusting, washing, clearing, decluttering

its hard bubt it feeld good to be doing all I can
for the kids, they need a clear clean environment

but me
pft I dont matter
I dont need to wash
I forget, I dont do it on purpose
Its hard to explain

not showering enough is probably a hierarchy of needs thing, things like that are absolutely at the bottom of my list too

Hi Trinity,

We've never "spoken" here before, but I've been reading your threads recently and just wanted to say how much I admire you for everything you're doing right now!

Not being able to keep on top of showering/grooming is one of the commonest symptoms of stress and depression - please don't feel embarrassed about it - I let myself get minging when I'm depressed .

It's one of the easiest things to sort out though, if you just add a shower to your list of chores for the day, no matter how little you feel inclined to do it.

It IS important that you sort this out though, Social Services WILL notice if you don't appear to be looking after yourself properly, even if the house/kids are clean and tidy,if it's obvious that you're not caring for yourself, it will be a red flag to them.

Can you treat yourself to some nice smellies and maybe an easy-care haircut or trim?

You really will feel so much better in yourself (I know from experience ) if you just take 10 minutes a day to tidy yourself up! You deserve it!

HTH X

Yup, Trinity, you're right, I am going to shout.
YAAAY for tidiness, spag bol and folding laundry straight from dryer.
but PHEEEWW for not getting yourself clean! Add yourself to the laundry and dishes list, immediately!
Seriously honey, you deserve to look and smell nice too, and you really will feel better for it. (and you don't want the children at school saying anything to your dds now, do you). Come on, hop to it now, or I'll have to come and scrub you too!
See I'm just the opposite, strggle to go 24hrs without a shower and a hairwash - in fact I'm prpbably the whole other end of the spectrum and bordering on OCD as you may have noticed by my "I don't care if it's 4 o'clock in the morning, I'm just going for a shower" antics .
Kill two birds with one stone, and clean the shower while you're in there, then you can tick off two things on your list .

lol I'd forgotten about the 4am shower

was a fab night

you must come over again soon

promise I will smell sweet

I will consider it if you promise to be clean!!
Would love to come back down, just a case of lack of time def not lack of inclination.
Heavens, I just managed a day / night out in Edinburgh for the rugby and got less wrecked than in four hours of an "evening" with you!

I'll be clean
I'll be clean
I promise

I've just bought some vanilla bath and shower stuff

pleeease come and stay again

sooo much fun

get in the shower trinity!

damn, you caught me