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he hit me so hard i lost my baby and it my fault can anyone help me ?

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hurts2much · 15/12/2009 16:42

i dont know if anyone can give me any advice but iv been searching on the internet with no joy so asking u mums.

its been a year now since i broke up with my violent ex.the violent was horrific. he was very jelous an i could never do right. this started when i got pregnant with my twins.but one night was even more horrific it was my friends party . an i went wearing shorts and a top(i was still slim at the time).i had calls telling me to get home etc. i knew what was waiting for me so i said i would stay at my best friends.he used his charm to get me home.how i wish now i stayed..
that night he beat me so hard i lost one of my babies.of course he was sorry.anyway i stayed with him as he threatened he would kill me andthe other if i left him.finally when my dd screamed as he dragged me i left. i could have the beating but not my children witnesing it.
weve broke up over a yr now and i have been depressed and hard getting my life bk. but i know the grieving of a child will never go away but its eating me up whole if i had left him. i would have both of my twins.my dd is 2 nowbut i think about her twin every day.
my friends are worried about me and say i should try get some therapy.can anyone give me advice at all i dont know what to do anymore

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SantasKinkyKnickers0nMaHead · 16/12/2009 00:42

Firstly, well done for getting the courage to leave, it is a big step I knoe.

Secondly, yes, you will probably need to have some therapy, as talking things through really do help.

Please don't blame yourself.

hobbgoblin · 16/12/2009 00:48

Oh Fab not again with the twins.

FabIsGettingReadyForChristmas · 16/12/2009 08:14

hobbgoblin - I just tried to CAT you but you aren't set up to receive.

HugeBaublesWhatDidISayRoy · 16/12/2009 10:15

I think fab asked perfectly reasonable questions to the OP - trying to get a picture of what has been happening.

FabIsGettingReadyForChristmas · 16/12/2009 11:17

Thanks HugeBaubles. Very emotive subject.

hobbgoblin · 16/12/2009 12:10

Oh Fab I think all my settings have gone silly since tech's latest fiddlings. I'll have a little look

hurts2much · 29/12/2009 20:34

sorry i have not logged on for a while. fab i have 1 boy 1 girl.
i left him after i had lucy wen she was around 6 months old.i had an elder boy by another partner. so iwanted to work it out. but also the emtional side abuse side when he told me if id left him of what he would do to my loved ones. when your in the sitiuation u believe them.
i am goin to make an appointment with the doctors see what he says.times a healer an although it will never heal i will learn to lkive with it day to day.i did feel guily to go to the doctors becaus ei shud be very grateful for the 2 heaklthy gorgeous children i have. thanks everyone for there kind posts

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