It's been coming for years, she should have done it when my sister and I were kids. but she didn't. The reason she has the courage to do it now is coz sis and I are grown up and we are TELLING her how much hell my 2 wee brothers are going through (aged 13 and 16) with my Mum and Dad arguing horribly every night. It was awful to grow up in that environment, but he worked away most of the time (2weeks away 2 weeks at home) so we just got on with it. Plus my Gran was round every day and she was more like the other parent to us than Dad. But 10 yrs on Gran is in a home with severe Parkinsons and Dad is home every night.
I can't go into all the details, but he doesn't beat her up or anything. It's all verbal, and he does it to the 4 of us kids too.
At the moment, due to my Project Manager being off sick...... my Dad has been transferred, and is now my boss.
With everything my marriage, DH's work..... I just don't know what else can go wrong.
I know its the right thing for my Mum to do, but how do I deal with this??? They talk about each other all the time, Dad even slags off my Mum to all the guys at work when I'm sitting there. I have told him on more than one occasion that he is a bastard and a bully. But he thinks if he apologises then its ok. I know my Mum has been to a lawyer, housing dept and womans aid. They will probably get her and the boys a house in the next few weeks, but she hasn't spoken to my Dad since Sunday. And he keeps asking me.
What a mess. I can't stay out of it as I work with my Dad and my Mum has no friends. My sister won't talk about it either.
Just needed to spew that out....