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OMG it is tomorrow

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FabulousBakerGirl · 11/05/2009 16:28

I have my first psychotherapy appointment tomorrow and haven't filled in all the forms yet.

Have no idea what to expect.

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FabulousBakerGirl · 11/05/2009 17:39

secretly??? very scared.

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FlyMeToDunoon · 11/05/2009 17:56

Well years ago at my first psychotherapy session I just cried and cried a lot.
Depends what sort of thing you are going for I suppose.

Good luck!

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FabulousBakerGirl · 11/05/2009 18:05

Thank you.

Will they help me work out what I need to deal with first?

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FlyMeToDunoon · 11/05/2009 18:25

I expect they will help you with whatever you ask for help with.
I am no expert and as I say my limited experience was a long time ago. I was pleased that my therapist did actually point out connections and make suggestions as to how to progress. I had been worried she would sit mute expecting me to just talk and talk.

dollius · 11/05/2009 18:27

They just want to find out what sort of help you need. The person you see will be a very gentle person, and will just want to listen to you. They will hope you will open up a bit about how you are feeling, but there will be no pressure if you find it too hard this first time.

Don't worry about the forms - it's just to help them, but if you don't feel able to cope with them right now, there will be no pressure.

You should come out feeling a bit relieved, a bit cared for, a bit like you are finally moving forward in getting better.

Good luck and really don't worry about it - they are there to take care of you, and help you to take care of yourself.

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FabulousBakerGirl · 11/05/2009 18:34

Thank you dollius. I have been wondering how you were.

I am seeing a man.

Some of the questions assume I work so I am not sure how to answer them as I don't.

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swissmiss · 11/05/2009 18:35

Good Luck FBG.

I've got my community team triage appt on Weds and am feeling quite scared as well tbh, even though it's just 2 mh nurses i feel like it's a big test iykwim. Like yourself, not knowing what to expect is bothering me. I have been told by a psycotherapist I know to lay it on thick to make sure I really get directed to the help I need, rather than getting fobbed off if I keep things together whilst trying to talk thru it all. Feels kind of wrong but I think she may have a very valid point

Take care and let us know how you get on.

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FabulousBakerGirl · 11/05/2009 18:37

I think my problems have been trying to dismiss how i feel as i really don't want to deal with it.

I have to go now, don't want too, but it is the self help meeting thing i go too.

thank you

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dollius · 11/05/2009 19:49

FBG - have you posted under another name before?

Really don't be scared. Just trust them - they honestly want to help you get better. There are no trick questions and you can just answer the questions you are comfortable with - just ignore the work-related questions if they don't apply to you.

Let us know how it goes.

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FabulousBakerGirl · 11/05/2009 21:00

I have had other names.

Buzzing a bit now. Just come back from my self help meeting and it is an amazing feeling when you realise - with help - why you feel the way you do about things and it isn't all/any of your own fault.

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dollius · 11/05/2009 21:50

Yes, it is, isn't it?
Doesn't it make you realise that you deserve to feel better?

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FabulousBakerGirl · 12/05/2009 08:14

Well, I got what I asked for this morning and now I am bawling my eyes out.

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nickschick · 12/05/2009 08:19

Good luck today xx

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FabulousBakerGirl · 12/05/2009 08:21

so need tissues
God knows what I will be like when i get there

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nickschick · 12/05/2009 14:18

How did it go??

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FabulousBakerGirl · 12/05/2009 14:53

Well, I went to the wrong bit of the hospital, then it wasn't down for me to see this person, then I saw a woman and not a man and then we learnt I had been sent a letter which admin had typed wrong.

The lady was really nice. She reminded me of someone I used to work with. It was to talk about things so she can see what kind of therapy she thinks I need. I see her again on the 9th to talk some more.

She said we needed to talk about my child hood and I started welling up so that clearly bothers me more than I let on. I never want to talk about it as I don't want to admit it happened.

I have been having emotional issues over an ex who has been messing with my head and the best thing is I have worked it out - with her help - why he gets to me so much and now I am 100% certain I can put that in the past.

Most people remember their first loves and that relationship comes on the foundation of a good upbringing and parental support. I never had any of that so he became everything to me and that is why he has had such a huge part in my life and why I have found it so hard to stop thinking about him. It is also why he was more than just my first boyfriend. I never knew how to explain it before but she knew exactly what I meant. Now I know it is about the feelings and not him, I feel free.

I am sure that won't make sense to lots of people but it makes total sense to me and I think I will be okay.

DS2 wants me so have to go.

Thank you for asking and sorry for going on so much.

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nickschick · 12/05/2009 15:24

You are not going on and the reason I ask how you are is cos I care and I have lots of v similar stuff going on too.

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FabulousBakerGirl · 12/05/2009 16:04

Always happy to listen, if you want to talk.

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nickschick · 12/05/2009 19:14

No all my stuff is locked away in a filing cabinet deep in my soul....drawers are full to bursting tho .

OMFG im a miserable cow arent I lol

Do you feel any better knowing you have started to file your stuff?

**dunno why I compare it to paperwork - hope u arent offended.

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FabulousBakerGirl · 12/05/2009 20:09

I can't tell you how GOOD it feels to know why I felt the way I did and it has gone now.

Years it has taken and all it took was one hour with the right person.

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swissmiss · 12/05/2009 21:18

FBG - was thinking about you this morning. So glad that today helped you and you've found the right person. Given me some hope for my appt tomorrow.

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FabulousBakerGirl · 13/05/2009 08:09

I hope it goes well for you.

I was expecting a man, got a woman, wasn't sure what was happening at first and she seemed to have an unusual way of talking and it made me think I can't see this working. But I was wrong.

Lots of luck.

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swissmiss · 13/05/2009 23:10

Thanks, tbh, I feel in a bit of a funk and fobbed off about it all atm. She had a weird manner and basically there's nothing happening now for 3 wks when we'll meet again to discuss what treatment they could offer me. I'm to read a book she prescribed via the library,but it's not the book that's really relevant as it's no longer on her list!!!! so she gave me the general anxiety one rather than traumatic stress one specifically. Also she couldn't even tell me if I meet the criteria for the trauma psychotherapists (apparently she doesn't think I'm "bad" enough), she'll check with them, otherwise I'm stuck with the general mh crew.

Good to hear you can see it working and helping you. How's things been today?

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FabulousBakerGirl · 14/05/2009 07:54

Oh that's not good. can you go to your GP and talk it over with them?

I am okay. Up and down but not as bad with some things as before.

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swissmiss · 14/05/2009 22:07

Dunno, not got much faith in my GP. She claims it's just depression but it isn't and the mh nurse said i should go back to her to get my a/d dosage increased [shrug]. I might switch to one of the other drs at the practise.

Manage to pick up the correct book, the library couldn't understand why she gave me the wrong one, it's still on the list. Read a bit of that this afternoon, sat in car on drive at home, as all 3 dcs had fallen asleep on drive home. Been quite jittery this eve.

I know that up and down feeling....

Sorry to hijack your thread.