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was going to name change but couldnt be arsed [sad]

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nailpolish · 09/03/2009 17:06

tell me what they do at CBT
i start tomorrow at 9am
really worried and feel like crying im so worried
its cos i have no idea what happens at the appt
its a whole hour

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BoysAreLikeDogs · 10/03/2009 17:27

Awww naily

I bawled non stop for the first 2 or 3 sessions

Being able to talk to someone who is non judgemental in their listening (IYSWIM)is such a relief, yes?

JustCallMeGoat · 10/03/2009 17:27

sorry to hear you are so low np.

lol@ my name is colin and you burst into tears.

did you mention cath kidston?

hope it helps. did your gp refer you? how long did it take? (not being nosey need to know)

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nailpolish · 10/03/2009 17:33

yes referred by gp in october

it was so weird - in part i felt like i was just ahving a good old moan and i was a fraud being there
in other parts i wanted to shout at him "WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME"

i am quit elooking forward to the next one to be honest

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nailpolish · 10/03/2009 17:33

are yaou ok goat?

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MargaretMountford · 10/03/2009 17:36

sounds good to me so far nailpolish ! at Colin !!

Megglevache · 10/03/2009 17:37

Hi NP
No experience but noticed your name here, FWIW I think you are being really brave, It's a big step- goo don you.

Hope you're ok.

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nailpolish · 10/03/2009 17:38

oh meggle
you helped me before, yo uare lovely

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Megglevache · 10/03/2009 17:41

Don't be daft- stop saying thank you-

Bleive it or not you have helped me today-

I heart the, you had me at Colin bit.

I know you won't believe me but in time you will laugh about this- honest.

JustCallMeGoat · 10/03/2009 17:45

i am struggling a bit but am not going to muscle in on your colin thread!

ShinyPinkShoes · 10/03/2009 19:10

Nailpolish it is so good that you are looking forward to your next session, that's really positive

I did chuckle a bit at the 'Colin' bit but he sounds nice.
Did you find it easy to talk to him?

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Hassled · 10/03/2009 19:50

I'm so glad you're sort of looking forward to the next one - you've been bloody brave. And lol at poor Colin

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nailpolish · 11/03/2009 09:13

goat you have my email if you wantto ask anything

was colin easy to talk to? well i certainly talked enough - so i suppose thats a yes

he had a horrible tie though and im afraid i was a bit judgey poor bloke

(im only kidding)

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nailpolish · 11/03/2009 09:14

goat, seriously, email me if you want to chat

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mileniwmffalcon · 11/03/2009 09:22

not wishing to put a downer on things at all, but don't feel bad if it doesn't work out for you - some people it suits, some it doesn't. i found i used to pin an awful lot on the next step, counselling, psychiatrist, cmht, whatever. and then i'd get a massive letdown when they turned out to have no answers for me. although my experience of managing depression isn't as bleak as that sounds at all. just a gentle suggestion to see this as one step amongst many you can take to enable you to cope in the long term.

sorry that does sound negative doesn't it, but i've been in bits feeling like i've reached the end of the line when a treatment hasn't helped when it hasn't turned out that way at all.

best of luck, really hope it works for you.

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nailpolish · 11/03/2009 09:27

see, that is my biggest worry
that nothing will change
at the end of the session i expected him to say "ok - this si whats wrong with you and this is how we fix it.."

but he didnt evenoffer any information - i had to say to him "what doyou think?" and hesiad "you have a mountain of stress - what do you hope to achieve with counselling? what would you like to change?"

argh

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Megglevache · 11/03/2009 10:01

I think the tie thing is good, shows a bit of perspective

Are you feelin gok today?

bundle · 11/03/2009 14:59

lol @ my name is colin

good luck with it naily x

Megglevache · 11/03/2009 16:54

I have just realised I asked if you were feelin Gok.

I meant of course Feeling ok.

Not if you were touching up a strange Chinese man , of course.

JustCallMeGoat · 12/03/2009 14:37

i like 'feelin gok' i think it should become mumsnet rhymming slang or bad typing slang.

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nailpolish · 13/03/2009 09:10

i dont normally go round feeling slim fashiongurus

im ok today, thanks
feel a bit numb

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nailpolish · 14/03/2009 09:39

someone "helpfully" told me last night to watch comic relief, get a grip and stop taking for granted what i have and to get some perspective

anyone else fel like this?

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Lulumama · 14/03/2009 09:42

hi nailpolish, sorry you are so down

i did find when i had PND, people did helpfully tell me i had nothing to be depressed about.. i had a beautiful baby, a gorgeous husband, lovely house , a car, a job and nice things.. so that just made me feel doubly guilty and even worse, fro daring to be depressed

even though depression is an illness, same as any other, and you can;t help it.

people say it as they have no idea what to say, as tehy are afraid of trying to understand, so come out with daft cliches

CBT is really positive and will really help

purplemonkeydishwasher · 14/03/2009 09:47

'get a grip'?? honestly!! you can always tell people who don't understand depression or anxiety.

sorry you are having a rough time, naily.

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nailpolish · 14/03/2009 09:50

i have ben obsessing about it for ages and feel really guilty now as i did wath comic relief and god it was sad

on the up side, at 3am i made a list of things to do with the dds today (like visit the farm) (although its already gone to pot as they want to play with their toys upstairs)

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