Not sure I can see the point anymore :(

[MrsSnape]

Today I have wasted an entire day sat at the PC. Why? because I have sod all else to do.

My life really is pointless at the moment. I have no money so can't go anywhere or do anything. Every job interview I go to I mess up, half the time I can't even get to the job interview stage and now it seems there are no jobs to even APPLY for anymore.

I'm the only young person in my family to be in this state.

Earlier on a comparison was made between me and another family member, we'll call her Alison.

Now I want to start off by saying I DO NOT MEAN ANY OFFENSE TO ANY PARENTS OF SN CHILDREN....

But Alison has special needs. Today someone said "you and Alison are in a similar situation really..." and I thought about it and realised its true.

We're both living on a sink estate, single parents, no employment, no friends, no money, seemingly no future...at least she has a bloody excuse for finding things difficult!

I feel so shit at the moment. Nobody else in my family is like this. Everyone else works, everyone else either owns a house or rents privately in a nice area, everyone else has at least a bit of money, everyone else goes out now and again...

I've been sat here all day wondering what the point is. Why do I even bother getting up? if it wasn't for needing to get the kids to school, I'm not sure I would.

Oh and the kids have a dentist appointment for tomorow. The dentist phoned earlier and said he needed to move it to 8.30am...:

"But, if that's too early, I can re-book for another day..."

me - "no no!! that's fine, 8:30am is fine..."

why? because its something to do and I was kind of looking foward to it. How bleeding sad is that?

MrsSnape - is there any voluntary work going?

Something like this would surely give you some sense of worth?

aww

i didnt want to leave your post unanswered.

i know it is so hard when you are right in the middle of it, and i was there myself 12months ago exactly, but you do have to find a way out for yourself.

Do you not have a single friend/neighbour to confide in? Just having one person to talk to can make you feel a million times better.

Something to study for? i have been with the Open university for 8yrs now and sometimes it has given me a real focus in life, especially when i couldnt find a job.
Do you know what you would like to do, career wise?

I want to come and give you a big hug. i've been had some crappy times in my life as well when I've thought that life is just awful and there's nothing good going on. I kept going and gradually worked my way out of the situation. Keep your head high and don't give up. I like bellavita's advice - voluntary work may make you feel better about yourself and could even lead to paid work in the future.

Put some lippy on and get out there girl!

I have thought about volunteer work actually, I just don't know what type to go for? something which could lead to some kind of employment would be ideal.

Bellyup, nobody at all to talk to I did open university but I quit half way through the course, I doubt they'd have me back now.

How old are you?

im sure you still have your whole life ahead of you?

i was 27 when my whole world fell apart, and my dcs were nearly 4 and 8.
i truly thought my life was over and just fantasised about suicide all the time. Just one year ago, this was.

But, i did have this tiny little bit of faith inside me that things would get better.
i kept holding on to that feeling, and never let it out of my mind, and last week i landed the job of my dreams, over 30 other applicants, and i am now seeing a lovely bloke who makes me laugh again.
i never thought another man would look at me again, let alone such a cutey.

The excitement of getting the job alone has changed my outlook on loads of stuff, but it has given me huge amounts of confidence to be able to look to the future and feel excited again.

Just tiny little steps is all you need at the moment..

MrsSnape - is there a shelter for the homeless or a drop in centre - just making someone a cup of tea would surely make you smile?

Funnily enough, I'm 27!

Bellavitte, I will look into it. Thanks.

how about this

Bellavitta, that is briliant! thank you, sounds perfect. Do you think they'll be there now?

Probably not - but there is no harm in trying?

I've just tried them but they're not there. I've noted the number down and will phone first thing tomorow. It really would be ideal as it is NHS admin I've been trying to get in.

Thanks for taking the time to find that Bellavitta, I really apreciate it x

the volunteering sounds fab

good luck with it all

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Hey that's ok

No advice but a minor compliment. Costs nothing to me
I recognised your mumsnet name as I have thought you sound like an intelligent person from some posts of yours.

i know how you feel about the job hunting..i am in the smae position re jobs not the same age tho

hope you are feeling ok?

Let us know how you get on with the phonecall.

Thanks for the messages :-) Lingle, thanks for the compliment!

I phoned them today Bellavita and she said although they have nothing "officially" at the moment she has sent me an application form in the post and in the meantime will dig around and find something! so fingers crossed

AGBU - i am THRILLED to see things are looking up for you. This isn't my old name (i am LEM) as i have namechanged. You are bloody inspirational you are!

Mrs Snape - hang on in there

can i just say one thing - sometimes, it helps to step away from mumsnet for a bit - i get really frustrated with myself sometimes as i often end up losing whole days almost. It is a wonderful support network but it can be a bit of a tie too. Maybe have a mumsnet free day, but make sure you fill it with something outside. Go for a walk, get on a bus if you want to get out of your area, some fresh air really perks me up.

Well done MrsSnape

MrsSnape -

here you go

I have just put in where you are and it has brought up all sorts of opportunites - worth a look?

opportunities (have not got my typing fingers on today )

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