What is my problem? My life is great.

[HormonalHorror]

I have a lovely, lovely partner, two beautiful boys, a lovely house and family, fulfilling work.

So why:

• do I get the weeps so frequently
• am I so horrible to DP
• do I have to be so controlling
• do I seem to want to destroy everything
• do I lose my temper with my older boy (a gorgeous child)
• can I not be easygoing
• do I find DP's family soooo irritating when they are perfectly nice people, just not my cup of tea
• etc etc etc
• feel so tense all the time
• feel unable to let myself be happy
• wreck everything
• am I so nasty to live with

etc etc etc

I'm feeling ok today which is how I am posting this. I've only thought about it since posting a thread the other day about a disagreement I had with DP. Made me think about how tightly I have to control things. (Having said that I am a messy, sloppy thing, not obsessive about housework etc.)

What is my problem? More to the point what can I do to whip myself into shape?

[HormonalHorror]

Hi, I let this slip off my threads list. Grouchy, I'm glad you mentioned to your doc - did they recommend someone to you?

I've not been back to the psychotherapist I saw. I am still thinking about it. She was nice, seemed bright, but a bit... easy or something. God I'm tired tonight, can't think straight, just looked for the thread to get it back on my I'm On list. Will be back to post more coherently.

[HormonalHorror]

I am just wondering are any of the people who originally posted on this thread still about?

[NotQuiteCockney]

I hadn't seen this thread before - it's probably not a bad idea to try seeing two or three different therapists/counsellors/psychoterapists. I don't think I agree with anorak's (if it was her?) distinction between psychotherapists and counsellors - different people have different styles, and they will lead or follow, depending on their style, your personality, and what's going on.

There are a wide range of therapists out there. I'd recommend getting one that's the same gender as the parent who you think fucked you up the most. (For most people, I think this will be your mother.)

[Littlefish]

Yes, I'm here!

How are you HH?

I agree NQC - The last therapist I saw reminded me so much of my mother, it was quite challenging at times. However, it was also the most effective counselling I've had.