my mother and baby group :-(

[dejags]

I went this morning and feel so crappy now. Really I don't know why I bother

My DS2 is a big bonny baby, he has reflux and he is quite advanced i.e. rolled backward and forward confidently by 3 months old. He is not breastfed because I have had a breast reduction.

This morning I have had to endure:

Wow bet you won't manage this exercise (lifting your baby above your head) - he is just TOO fat!

If you breastfed your baby he wouldn't be so fat and you would lose weight quicker

What are you feeding that child, he is HUGE!!

Why are some mums so smug that they feel they get it all perfect all the time? A few in particular go on an on about how they breastfeed with no problems, have an angel baby who sleeps through the night and who is the perfect weight and doesn't have reflux. They look at me as if they feel sorry for me and it makes me so bloody sad and angry at the same time .

Sorry to rant I just need to get it off my chest.

Oh and to add insult to injury after sitting through all the comments we were forced to endure a Tupperware demonstration during the free time (probably a good thing as I may have got snippy with one of the perfect mums).

Hi Dejags,
Please don't waste your time thinking about what went on at the baby group. Firstly, if you have a 'fat baby' congratulations!! that's fantastic, I'd love to have a fat baby, can't wait for my baby to get so fat i can't pick her up, sounds gorg!! So see the comment as a compliment, I would be seriously impressed with myself. Secondly, and more importantly, remember these baby groups are just a gathering of lots of people in a room. You would never go to a party and love to death every person in a room, so in the same way, think about just brushing comments like that away fron your mind. Instead think about the positive elements of the event. Don't waste valuable energy on throw away comments (the mother that made the comment hasn't thought about you since)you could be enjoying yourself. Lastly I wish nature had given us the opportunity to share things, for eg you could have given me as much bust as you wanted and i would have been the happiest girl ever. Oh well can still dream of big busoms!!! (sigh)

Just got back now, I suppose the bitchy M&B group is an occupational hazard when you are a SAHM.

I just wish people would think more before hammering on about something - I don't have any problem with the odd comment but when it's all the time it gets a bit much.

In South Africa you have to pay to go to M&B groups - for a whole term in advance (costs a lot). I could cheerfully pack up today and come back to the UK for my lovely friends - you have all really helped me today, thank you