WTF do you do when your abuser is some sort of fecking hero??

[Cryingoutforhelp]

I cant so this anymore
cant breath but dont want to
I am fed up
He is living life of riley on queens honours lists, recieving medals, in the papers as some sort of hero
has fantastic life and nobody knows
those who do know dont care and dont acknowledge my pain because it is easier for them
I am a shit mum and my kids would be better.
I need to eb talked to before I do something stupid

I know someone who was abused (by someone who is v v senior in a public organisation and then went on to have 3 other children with wife #2) and she was told by a policeman "you have until the day he dies to prosecute". I have no experience but it is your right to deal with what happened in whatever ways best help you.

Btw my dad had a friend whose step daughter accused him of abuse. She was about 10 iirc. He immediately called the police, social services, said he was innocent etc, his wife believed him and not her daughter. He was public school, successful, rich, upper middle class. I remember nobody believing he had done anything UNTIL my sister remembered something he'd tried to do when she was left alone with him once that made her very uncomfortable. Although nothing happened, because, I think, someone else came into the room, it was enough for me to believe his daughter.

I'm so sorry, this must be very hard for you.

It must be very daunting, though, if it basically comes down to opposing testimonies with no evidence remaining, and the perpertrator is viewed has having status, and presumably resources for top layers etc.

Which is where your mother and sister's betryal is downright wicked, of course.

He knows what he did, the bastard.

Podrick, MNHQ would have to take it down as that would be accusing without evidence.

cryingoutforhelp, here is a story about an important person, a priest, being jailed for abuse that happened 40 years ago. So it is possible to prosecute after many years and no-one is infallible. Just look at the scandals surrounding these high class people, they are not above the law however. Chances are that once you put in your complaint, others will follow suit, because I doubt very much that you will have been his only victim.

People like him use his position of power to abuse, and who knows, he may still be doing it today.

But this is about you and how you wipe this chapter from your life. Talk to Victim Support about how you feel. There are organisations out there, specialist organisations, that will be able to guide you and even put you in touch with other survivors. Because you are not a victim anymore, you are a survivor, remember that.

cryingout - how are you?

not sleeping been up all night which isnt good as just feeds thoughts
DC will be up soon which is good as means can keep busy and try not to think but my chest is constantly feeling like has a ton of bricks on it.

I am here if you want to CAT me.

There are similarities between us - which is why another mmumsnetter thought I was the OP - and contacted me. If you want to talk off board please CAT me. HUGS

really, I think perhaps bumping such a very old thread is not the way to go about this.

lindalinda, you have put out a call on another thread too - you need to get that deleted