Don't know what to do

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Without going into too much detail, the last few years have been pretty rubbish but I thought that I was dealing with it all normally. But over the last couple of weeks lots of things have started coming back to the point where I'm having really bad nightmares about things and feeling more upset about things then I have for ages. Don't know what to do about it though, don't want ad's because they won't actually solve the underlying problem and not sure about counselling for many reasons, one of the main ones being once I start letting things out I probably won't be able to stop it.

Don't know what anyone can do but had to get it out, and if you guess who I am, don't say on here please.

Just seen this but have to do the school run so I'll be back later. I just wanted to leave a hug for you in the meantime.

are you feeling any better WK? Thinking of you {{{HUGS}}}

Thankyou cads!!! Titania, am feeling ok today, it all keeps going round my head but just have to find some way of 'putting it to rest'. When I started the thread i'd just had a bad night with dd and a really weird vivid nightmare about it all and think that made me feel really down about it all.

poor you. nightmares are terrible for scaring the life out of you. you do need to find someway of putting it all to rest once and for all. I can talk I know cos I haven't even started with mine but still. Easier said than done hey?!

Its always easier to give advice than do it yourself, have done that enough, it is definitely easier to talk about the solution than do it!! But you talk about it and that's half the battle for most people.

i havent even mentioned the worst half of what's been going on....people will think I've lost the plot.

Wobblynicks - can you try to fill your head with good things, to drive out the bad? Treat yourself to some bouncy CDs (I recommend DuranDuran's latest, It'll be Alright in the End!) Sorry, showing my obsession now but music can help. Oh, and try to read a couple of chapters of an absorbing book every day. I know its not going to deal with the original stuff, but strategies might help.

Some people think I've lost the plot but I just try and ignore them, there will always be some people that know you haven't.

jangly - I think having other things in my head has kept me half-sane and stopped me getting depressed. I couldn't do without my music, must listen to at least an hour a day probably - poor dd has heard about half an hour of nursery rhymes in her whole life but has heard stacks of Scissor Sisters, Robbie Williams etc etc etc . Probably buy too many CD's as it is, but can't say I've heard any of Duran Duran's stuff though. Trying to get back into reading after dd goes to bed, have just started Oryx and Crake - about someone with far more problems than me!!! Thanks for the advice, it probably would help if I stopped myself thinking so much!

WK i do think you would benefit from getting counselling in some form and it doesnt have to be face to face there are probably some resources online that could help or could u lie to ur family and say ur going to see a friend? Sometimes we have to face the demons to regain our control over them...once they are exposed half the time they dont seem as scarey or have the same hold over you

titania...dont woryr about seemingly lost the plot..i know i did completely things got quite bad and i was SH/ having paranoia..but hey i was honest and cant have lost it enough cos no men in vans came to get me..

Hi WK. sorry you have been having such a rough time recently. I wonder whether it is a combination of thinking about starting work/moving house, and having to go back thru old accounting stuff (saw your IR thread a few weeks ago) has thrown up all these memories.

general stuff that helps with depression/anxiety - eating well/regularly, avoid caffeine - you know the whole you are what you eat/your body is a temple type lark. bit of exercise, relaxation stuff - a Hugh Jackman vid a night every night??? avoiding alcohol probably a good idea too - as the demon alcohol is a bit of a depressant. only you can say if you feel up to counselling or not -but there is other self-help things you can look at on the web and books - on the web there is quite a good web site called Moodgym - an ozzie thing that is meant to be a bit like CBT - get you to think more positively. also NHS recommended self help books are Overcoming Depression (not sure who by!) and the Self-Esteem one by Melanie Fennell - there is a story somewhere on the bbc web site to do with bibliotherapy as treatment for depression- bibliotherapy being posh word for reading self-help books. Am pretty sure I have the Melanie Fennell one so if you think reading that would be of interest, do contact me - essbee's got my details.

might be worth seeing your GP anyway - a good GP could be very helpful with self-help type suggestions for nightmare/anxiety etc.

ttfn

and here's a link to the bbc web site page on bibliotherapy I was waffling on a bout:-

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/devon/4081329.stm

Hey WK, Duran Duran are great! The Scissor Sisters supported them on their big UK tour last year. Their album is called Astronaut - do you remember "Reach up for the Sunrise" from last year? I love dancing round the kitchen to the dance re-mixes! And, hey, you can't have too many cds!

mishi - will look into online stuff, that would be a good compromise.

mts (glad to see you around again, still no laptop?) - have got quite a few self-help books now but could always do with some more!! Thanks for giving me a name for it, I'm not obsessed with weird books, I'm just interested in bibliotherapy!!! Will have a look at that site and the moodgym one after dd goes to bed. Trying to eat properly but the demon chocolate keeps tempting me - but am hardly drinking anything though which has to be good! Think all the recent stuff has helped bring the memories back a bit, all the moving on I spose.

pineneedle - will cautiously look into Duran Duran then!

You go girl! And throw caution to the wind! The dance re-mixes are on the new single, btw. The album's good too, though.

Will have to get hold of the album and see then

You will have to let me know what you think! Do you remember them from the 80's or was that before your time? The "delux" version of the albim has got a dvd from Wembley, with some of their older stuff too.

album!

I remember them very vaguely but it was before I was old enough to get into music properly!

I was just about old enough to be mad about them, but not really old enough to go to concerts etc, so it's great they're back doing new stuff. I saw them at the Hammersmith palais a few weeks ago.

I took a friend who is 20 and hadn't heard of them either - she loved it too!

Didn't even know they were still 'around' - will definitely have a listen.

back in the 80's most teenage girls were either Durannies or Spandau's. A bit like Blur v. Oasis, but they were all sooo much better looking!!!
Might have to start a new thread and check everyone's allegiences!

Lol, thankfully I missed all that - but was definitely with Blur!!! You should start that thread

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Ah, yes, Morten was pretty cute too...