To just completely give up on it all… sick of life

[quadly]

Looks like the org I work for is about to make redundancies due to poor financial situation, that will be the second time that’s happened to me in 18 months. Can’t see that getting better - the future stretches out in front of me in a series of increasingly short stints at orgs that are constantly having to cull staff due to shit financial circumstances or mismanagement.

Can’t sell our house, can’t even find a house we want to buy anyway because the market is so crap. Can’t see any future in it.

Car looks like it’s leaking engine fluid.

Everything is just so crap and constantly getting worse. In my life but also all around - every where is getting worse and everyone’s lives are so hard. Was starting to consider kids but two people very close to me have had awful awful pregnancies and stillbirths in the last year and I just think it’s put me off the whole thing, combined with the general state of the world. I honestly think it would be cruel to bring a child into such a crap time to be alive. And then you turn on the news and see the poor rugby player with MND and I feel guilty for feeling so miserable but it makes me even more miserable to think that me and everyone I love is just going to end up dying in a painful horrible way anyway. What’s the point of it all? I feel so bleak. Never been depressed in my life but I can’t shake this gloom off recently. I just can’t see life improving for anyone and I can’t see the point in any of it. Anyone else feel like this?

If you genuinely can't see any point in living, then you should discuss this with your GP or the Samaritans.

Please contact your GP if this is how you feel OP x

Get to the gp for some citalopram babe xx

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our mental health resources.

You can also go to the Samaritans website, or email them on [email protected].

Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

Go visit your GP because in reality what you are describing is just real life.

Hahahaha! Have you phoned them recently!? OMG. People seem to forget that they are a CHARITY. As a result of the demand on their services - and the government treating them as some sort of outsourced MH support - they are broke and allot an hour max to talk. That's if you're lucky and that's if you get a 'nice' person. I've had volunteers in the past who are clearly exasperated at my 'shutting down' their trite suggestions and then after an hour reminding me that there are others waiting who also need their help. It ain't what it used to be, at all - and it pisses me off that a charity is used by the government and others to provide MH support that ought to be available FULL STOP.

I think this feeling is becoming more prevalent recently, many people are working all the hours just to pay the ridiculous bills and can't save for the future or afford anything to lighten the gloom, and the joy in life is lost if you can't see how it's ever going to get any better than this. No wonder the Samaritans is so busy. But what is the point of it all at the moment?

Oh OP I could write your post right now, I’m so so down just now despite the sertraline! I have adult children one of whom is housebound with severe OCD, it torments her and seeing her suffer with it is horrendous. I have chronic pain and should really give up a few days at work but I can’t so all I do is work and sleep. My relationship with my DH is so rubbish I prefer sleeping with the dog! I have no close family and very few friends. I’m not a bad person but people tend to abuse my friendship and we drift apart. It all just feels so hopeless, I honestly don’t know what else to do?

I feel the same @quadly , there is no point to life 🙁.

Please do not consider having children while you feel like this. Children are very hard work and will take all your energy and attention. You will have to live for years without a full nights sleep. Look after yourself first.

Yes, I feel the same.
i had a brutal, crushing bereavement this year which I didn’t see coming. It has left me feeling broken. I’m going to be made redundant soon.

I can imagine the future and it’s not pretty. It’s a world of back pain, missing the person who died, having to work increasingly ridiculous degrading jobs while the state pension age recedes further and further backwards towards the horizon (I won’t be able to retire until I reach state pension age).

I can’t end my life because two living people would be very upset. But I’m not enjoying life, and I have no enthusiasm for the future. If I had my way I’d get it over with. Unfortunately I don’t have this option.

Life is hard and feeling despair is a fair and reasonable response. You’re not irrational, but don’t take action to end it. This is what it comes down to: sometimes, people are obliged to live miserably just so other people close to them don’t have to.