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autism adhd obsessing over men

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ByPinkFis · 07/09/2025 08:56

hi i’m going through div

i had an arranged marriage 10y ag

divorce been going on almost a year in coirt

the last few months i’ve been infatuated with men online , obsessing and i think about the idea of romance and sex all day - driving cooking cleaning etc

in the past though with my ex husband i found sex painful , my thighs would hurt as im so inflexible and i never found it pleasurable

i’ve been off my meds

they either make me too hyper ( duloxetine )

or too numb ( fluoxetine)

im await f an adhd assessment in october and they said can be 10m after that to actually get meds

alot
kf the time i dissociate and feel im floating

im a single mature student studying a 4 year degree with 3 kids

i also stare at the mirror several hours watching out for wrinkles and sagging

i hate my post baby body

the men online are gonna feel so disappointed that without my push up bra they drop like 3 inches despite being DD cup

i want to stop bf but my 18m old keeps pulling my t shirt up

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DiscoBob · 07/09/2025 17:01

There's nothing wrong with feeling like you want sex and male company after you escaped an unhappy marriage.

But it seems like you're feelings are dominating your life a bit.

I hope you can seek counselling? And talk to the doctor about changing your medication.

On the subject of your looks, any man that deserves to see you naked will find you and your body sexually attractive. But choose wisely. It seems like a relationship wouldn't be wise at the moment.

ImaniMumsnet · 07/09/2025 17:29

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