I’m feeling very isolated and have burnt my bridges

[BradleyGorman]

I’m feeling down today and have had an episode of self pity. I feel I’ve put off someone I like very much.

i wanted to post on here because given my mood I might do something more self destructive if I don’t

I’m sure we’ve all experienced something like you’re describing. I’m so sorry you’re feeling low. Would it help you to vent about things?

Hello. Please don't be hard on yourself. I understand how you feel completely - I spent most of my life feeling like this one way or another. Please realize that someone who is easily put off is not worth having in your life. If it's early days, count yourself lucky. Sending hugs

Thanks so much for responding .

I just feel I’ve wasted loads of opportunities and feel really down - am 52 - the person I put off is someone I only know from Facebook and not in real life

Thank you so much ❤️

If you only know this person through FaceBook, you may well have done yourself a favour, as there are so many scammers out there. Are you sure they were even real?

Yes they were real

So can I ask why you did what you did if you're so upset about it?

I’m feeling down and feeling that life’s pointless

Oh dear! Been there, done that, got the T shirt, as they say, so I'm REALLY sorry to hear how bad you're feeling. Has this been building for a while? Have you talked to your GP, as it really sounds like you may need some antidepressants. I know you may not want to take them, but having been on them in various forms for 43 years on and off, I can tell you that for the sake of popping a pill once a day, if it helps put you back on an even keel, it really IS worth it!!

Do you have someone IRL you can talk to right now @BradleyGorman ?

NO

Yes I’ve been feeling like it for a while

last time I was on pills it was a disaster

Are your reasons for burning those bridges still valid?

once you put emotions aside, are you better off now than before?

Yes you do - call Samaritans 💐

Thank you - this is a very good way of putting it and considering it actually - it’s very rational and objective ❤️

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.

We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website or email them on [email protected].

Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek RL help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

We're going to move this over to our Mental Health board now.

Wishing you very best, OP.
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If you'd like to discuss this in person with someone other than Samaritans OP, please feel free to PM me. As I say, I have experience of this, so can at least offer support, and understanding if you think that might be helpful.

Thank you so much - I really appreciate this ❤️

No problem! I'm heading to bed soon, will you be OK for the rest of the night?

Yes sorry thank you for checking in. I’ve made it through the night ❤️

Glad you're okay. As a previous poster wrote, we all go through this - most people just don't admit that they go through bad times as well. As you met this person on Facebook I'm guessing you're active on there and likely see a lot of updates from family and friends. Remember that social media is curated and isn't a true representation of people's lives. I know some people can become upset seeing what other people are supposedly up to. As for the person you met, perhaps it helps that you have not met them in real life. Please don't be so hard on yourself.

Glad to hear that you got through the night OK. How are you feeling this morning?

Not that much better if I’m being honest but I’m going to soldier on c

I just wanted to retweet this because - this has helped me so much on that have been a very difficult 2 days.

realistically - yes I feel the reasons for burning my bridges were valid

yes I feel better off now than before
but unfortunately emotions can sometimes hijack everything and distort things

Objectively though I have to admit things are better so thank you this is an excellent post