My family blew my life up on lies, do I...

[BucketHatWoes]

blow it up for them with truths?

Cool

I normally get shit for people pulling up old threads

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Don’t be such a doormat!

simple as that

You don't sound like a doormat. You sound very astute and know exactly what you are doing.

Lol. I've never understood people asking for advice but not bothering to provide information.

I need to stop being such a doormat
Tell me not to be such a doormat :)

Therapy. Start there.

Oh I do (understand them), it's a tactic which can invite the sorts of reply they hope for...I have met them in real life. One of my neighbours is "affectionately" known as "U OK HUN?" by my husband and me, because she loves a good drip feed.

I am having therapy, they are not in my life

My Ds chooses to have these people in his life

Because they manipulate him

Do I make him leave, so they fuck him up more?

Do I say nothing and not eat for 3 days straight?

Eating disorder WINNING :)

Arrogance...I'm out!

Should have put this in the mental health topic

My family went out of the way to fuck up my autistic sons mental health and knowing that would fuck up my eating

every day is a school day :)

More suited to facebook, half expecting "you alright hun?"

Are they the only options?
Obviously no one is going to say to not eat for three days.

This whole post needs a trigger warning.

My nonsense meter is spinning.

What do you honestly think is the best option?

@BucketHatWoes Have you been drinking tonight? Your posts are quite confusing.

Also, how are they manipulating him? And what truths do you have to say? And to whom?

@BucketHatWoes

I haven't AS'd you but here goes:

You are NC with your family

They manipulate your 25 hr old autistic son

You have an eating disorder and the effect of their manipulation makes you 'regress'.

You can't stop them manipulating your son and since he is an adult you can't stop him from having contact with them. I don't know how 'they fuck him up', but unless what they are doing puts him in physical or financial danger or involves him in something illegal then maybe it is time to tell him that if he loves your family and believes them over you then he needs to go live with them. Having him land on their doorstep might be the wake up call that all of them need.

Sometimes you just have to put yourself first. You know how serious an ED can be and the dangers involved to your health and wellbeing. There is nothing that says you must sacrifice yourself (possibly literally) to save someone who doesn't want to be saved. I understand that he may have limits to his understanding, but the principle is still the same.

I suggest you speak to your therapist about this and see what they say.

Not everyone does advanced searches. At least I don’t. I think from the information you’ve divulged that you need extensive therapy bc of your eating disorder. That can have a long term affect on your child thought process of eating and generally being healthy. You need to fix you I think but I don’t really know you so this just my opinion from afar

You have to get help. You don’t sound well.

Erm just go no contact with who you have a severe problem with?

Op it’s really hard to offer advice. I can’t tell if you are in crisis or have been drinking.

If you feel your son is being harmed emotionally or manipulated then make it a condition of living with you that he stays away from people that harm him. If he has limited capacity to care for himself then you must do it for him. It is not controlling if he is unable to care for himself.

Speak to your therapist and adult socials care..

Outline your concerns to him, concisely and clearly.

Dont kill yourself to save someone who doesn’t need saving op. Eat some breakfast, take control of your life and don’t give away your personal power. If it’s so damaging maybe it’s time to move away?

You need much more help than MN can provide. Call your psychiatrist and tell them you need a meeting asap.

Well, I would start by putting in boundaries to protect what you need to protect. Words like 'no' are a start.

As someone else with anorexia that's currently in full relapse and struggling through it, you can't use your eating disorder to get what you want, blame it on others, or use it as a pity point.

They are not the reason you're not eating. You're not eating because your eating disorder is bad. That's no one else's fault. You need to get a handle on that, it's your responsibility.

Would help to know what exactly has happened. You may be similarly over dramatic about the whole situation, or of course not, but we don't know.