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I hate having kids. TW: suicide attempt

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NameChange6479 · 28/04/2025 17:52

I’m 26 year old single mum with a 3 year old DS and a 4 year old DD.

My DS has complex needs due to a rare genetic disorder which presents itself as an intellectual disability. He has so many issues that I won’t even go into as I’ll be here all day. My DD also has SEN and will be going to a special school this September. Both are non/pre verbal.

Day to day life is EXHAUSTING. So many meltdowns, lack of understanding from both children, constant verbal stims and sensory issues. I’m overstimulated all day everyday and I hate everything that comes with having these children.

I had my first ever suicide attempt in December 2024 which was obviously unsuccessful. I’m currently going having CBT to help with depression and anxiety and it’s made me realise that I’ve had these negative thoughts and feelings since I first got pregnant in 2020. There’s genuinely no escaping how I feel because I hate my life.

There’s no support from social care as they literally do not give a fuck. The children with disabilities team also couldn’t give two shits. I’m lucky enough to have support from my mum who now has my children two nights a week since my attempt. The children’s dad is involved and he has them when he can but none of this seems to help. I almost feel like my life would drastically improve if I didn’t have full time care of my children. I don’t know what to do anymore. I just hate this life that I’m stuck with. Thanks for reading

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NameChange6479 · 28/04/2025 21:18

My mum has arranged for the children to stay with their dad for 2/3 months. Him and his family are incredibly unsupportive about the whole thing but I’m at breaking point and aren’t coping. Thank you again for the support and the links provided, I appreciate everyone who took time out of their day to comment x

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Dinosaurshoebox · 28/04/2025 21:33

NameChange6479 · 28/04/2025 21:18

My mum has arranged for the children to stay with their dad for 2/3 months. Him and his family are incredibly unsupportive about the whole thing but I’m at breaking point and aren’t coping. Thank you again for the support and the links provided, I appreciate everyone who took time out of their day to comment x

That's amazing
Please also remember you are under no obligation to hav ethe children return to your care. You can visit them within his home or agree to community visits.

0psiedasiy · 30/04/2025 20:27

@NameChange6479 how you feeling today? have the kids gone to their dads?

NameChange6479 · 02/05/2025 10:45

@0psiedasiy the kids are with their dad and will be with them for the next few months. My mum will have them every weekend so I can still see them often.

I’m feeling the same, very numb tbh. Had therapy and my therapist is going to write a supporting letter to help with the social care referral. I know they’ll decline it as they’ve declined us 4 times now. Not sure what the next steps are but I’m exhausted. Thank you so much for checking in x

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cheerfulaf · 02/05/2025 20:10

NameChange6479 · 02/05/2025 10:45

@0psiedasiy the kids are with their dad and will be with them for the next few months. My mum will have them every weekend so I can still see them often.

I’m feeling the same, very numb tbh. Had therapy and my therapist is going to write a supporting letter to help with the social care referral. I know they’ll decline it as they’ve declined us 4 times now. Not sure what the next steps are but I’m exhausted. Thank you so much for checking in x

I’m glad you have some sort of solution for now OP, even if it’s just to catch your breath

it's awful that you’ve been turned away 4 times now, especially when you’re so clearly at breaking point. I’m not surprised you’re exhausted, sorry it’s an uphill struggle to try and get some support

look after yourself and update us if you want/need to. Thinking of you x

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