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How do I let something go?

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PutMyWinterCoatAway · 03/04/2025 15:19

Someone wrote a letter to me accusing me of lots of things that I hadn't done. I had hurt them, yes, but had not done anywhere near the things they accuse me of.

It's been about six weeks since they sent it and I can't move on. I constantly write the fantasy reply in my head and draft it out. It's polite, it's not angry or vengeful, it's just factual.

I know I shouldn't send it. Time has passed, it won't change their mind etc etc.

But I cannot seem to make peace with not saying it.

Does anyone have any advice please?

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PutMyWinterCoatAway · 04/04/2025 20:58

DH suggested that if it's external validation I need I post the letter on here (it would be pretty obvious to anyone why it would be inaccurate). I yo-yo every day.

I'm not the victim, at all. And I know I need to work out how to accept the blame and shame of what I've done whilst rejecting the other stuff. I just don't know how.

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