Social Anixety

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I'm fairly new to this site, but I came across this board and wonder if anyone else like me

I'm normally ok, when I have friends at home,
but when usually I'm waiting to pick up my ds from preschool, I get quite nervous, and when I chat to people, I sometimes look down, rather than looking in the eye all the time.
I wish I could stop these nerves, but they seem to becoming worse and not better. I also am partially sighted in my right eye and you can see the difference from my right to left am very conscientious about it, which doesn't help. Does anyone else suffer from this and wonder if anyone has conquer their social anxietey.

mary - thanks for words. hope op is still watching thread too.

Hi, just thought i'd check in, revive the thread and see how everyone's doing.

i had a long chat with another mum at the park today, (quite an achievement) and of course now i'm thinking about the 'mistakes' i made.

I have suffer with social anxiety and I'm acutely shy,I'm not very good with eye contact,the thought of someone staring me directly in the eye fills me with dread and I often worry I come across as aloof and up my own arse at times,I find it desperately hard to mix,I just don't know what to say to people.I will often cross the road to avoid speaking to neighbours just because sometimes the thought of speaking fills me with dread.

I do the breaking down of converations after they have happened,and beat myself up over what I've said or what I could of said.I have a small handful of friends and most of them are very outgoing and 'loud',I find it much easier with talkative people as they carry the conversations usually (god, I sound sad!).

I was much better on ad's tbh,more outgoing and vocal but I really don't want to spend my whole life on meds,I'd love to deal with this on my own accord.

I've actually made a friend via my ds school and she's lovely, but its only taken 15mths to actually bring myself to speak to other mums in the playground .

Poshwellies,I know how you feel. My friends in RL are really loud and outgoing too but I can be when i am relaxed and with friends.
Since ds has been off from school for half term I have been a lot less stressed. Just the thought of going up to the school twice a day and standing in the playground makes me anxious, can't wait for the summer hols!

Totalmisfit, I do the same with the re-running of conversations in my head. I am not as bad with strangers as I know I won't see them again.

I am getting to the point where I am just accepting that I am very shy and will never "fit in" with the other mums. I have other mummy friends and this helps.