Abused to the point of wanting to die

[matilda1077]

A few examples of the messages I've received from my daughter's dad over the last few days. I've had years of emotional and financial abuse. We are seperated but living together and he's been making life hell. I had one night out with my friend for Christmas brunch and was called a grotty mother because I gave out my number to someone (I didn't reply to his messages as wasn't interested).

I've been pushed and pushed to the brink and I think I'm ready to end my life. I can't see a world where the abuse will ever stop. He said I spread pain into everyone's lives and I don't want to do that to my daughters. Think I'm better off not here

There's a real chance your kids will never truly be happy again if you take your life. Do you think he'll look after them properly? He wont. Go to your mum.

Please don't leave your children without you, and with such a nasty person who smokes weed and clearly has no moral compass. They deserve you, they need you, and you need to talk to somebody (your mum, a friend) so that they can see how low things have got. Please don't give up on your children.

He’s jealous of your freedom and his world is being rocked. Empty threats - so what if he demands half of all bills, write him an IOU

Seriously consider calling for help and going to stay with your mum for a few days. Can you use the messages as evidence you are having to leave due to emotional abuse?

How can he make you pay half the bills? He can't. Go to Citizens Advice Bureau for advice about disentangling yourself from house bills. And go to your mums in the meantime for some space. Block him so you don't have his poisonous messages coming through. He is trying to needle you with those - don't give him the satisfaction. Your kids would miss you terribly. Please don't leave them.

Hope you are doing ok today Op and have got to your Mum 's for a few days .
Your mental health matters and you need to look after yourself to be a good mum to your kids . Don't let him win . You need to get out and be honest with your Mum
Take care

He’s a delight and you’re absolutely he adult here…..

now don’t react. It’s hard but you need to just simple texts to him…so like you said don’t forget the elves…don’t worry about the if you’re not going to speak to me nice cos you’re literally talking to thin air,.

simple text. No reaction..it will annoy the hell out of him and make you look good in the process..

rinse and repeat. Rinse and repeat,….youve fot this

my inbox is always open ❤️

He's a rancid and toxic.

I have included a link to womens aid site where you can find info and support to help you get through this difficult time.

He may also be guilty of financial abuse and someone on the womens aid chat/forum/site should be able to confirm if this is true, and what you can do about it.

Remember, domestic violence laws have changed and women are better protected than they used to be.

KEEP ALL TXT MESSAGES from him in case you need them as evidence and stay strong, you know you have to be strong to be there for your kids so focus on you and your kids.

Womens Aid

Anyone who cannot spell the words they're insulting me with doesn't get an opinion. The weed is probably killing off the few brain cells he started off with. Just don't engage with him and don't give him any money. He can want all he likes. I want my own horse, house and possibly a Ferrari. I can demand them till doomsday. Doesn't mean I'll get them.

Hope you and your family are doing ok ?