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Anyone else struggling?

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Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 20:55

Anyone else just struggling with life? It’s Christmas with young children, isn’t this supposed to be the best time ever? but I can’t help but wish for Spring.

Anyone else just feel like pulling the duvet over their heads and hoping to wake up in January? Or to just disappear?!

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Differentstarts · 17/12/2024 20:58

Me it just extra stress, I struggle with just normal day to day life without adding all the extra jobs, stress and pressure

SealsAreCute · 17/12/2024 21:02

I lost my mum 6 years ago. Life has not been the same since .

hk1993x · 17/12/2024 21:09

I do. My mental health is so bad right now :-(

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Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 21:32

SealsAreCute · 17/12/2024 21:02

I lost my mum 6 years ago. Life has not been the same since .

I’m so sorry for your loss 🌷

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DoWhatIDo · 17/12/2024 21:34

Yep. Me too.

Love to you all 🩷

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Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 21:34

hk1993x · 17/12/2024 21:09

I do. My mental health is so bad right now :-(

Yeah mine too. I’m just sick of everything. Work, my boss on my case, home life (I do love my family more than anything), Christmas rammed down our throats etc etc. I just feel
whatever I turn my hand to, I’m a failure at.

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DoWhatIDo · 17/12/2024 21:34

SealsAreCute · 17/12/2024 21:02

I lost my mum 6 years ago. Life has not been the same since .

I am so sorry . Sending you love and strength.

Be gentle with yourself 🩷

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Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 21:35

Differentstarts · 17/12/2024 20:58

Me it just extra stress, I struggle with just normal day to day life without adding all the extra jobs, stress and pressure

Thanks for replying 💝

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Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 21:36

DoWhatIDo · 17/12/2024 21:34

Yep. Me too.

Love to you all 🩷

Thanks for replying 💝

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Friendofdennis · 17/12/2024 21:40

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. The pressure is immense. I am feeling very sad today but that is because someone very dear to me has just died. I I am thinking about them and don’t feel like celebrating Christmas to be honest

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Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 21:42

I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you virtual hugs 🤗

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hk1993x · 17/12/2024 22:03

Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 21:34

Yeah mine too. I’m just sick of everything. Work, my boss on my case, home life (I do love my family more than anything), Christmas rammed down our throats etc etc. I just feel
whatever I turn my hand to, I’m a failure at.

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Are you getting support? I honestly wish it wasn't Xmas next week or I would of checked myself in to the hospital x

Nogodsnomasters · 17/12/2024 22:08

Massively struggling right now.

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Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 22:10

hk1993x · 17/12/2024 22:03

Are you getting support? I honestly wish it wasn't Xmas next week or I would of checked myself in to the hospital x

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I’m signed off but feel guilty and a failure because of this. Only husband knows I’m off. Still trying to put a brave face on for my kids. I’m on 200mg of Sertraline daily but I swear the last week it’s not touching the sides xx

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Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 22:10

Nogodsnomasters · 17/12/2024 22:08

Massively struggling right now.

Hugs to you. If you feel as shite as I do right now, you’re not alone xx

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Nogodsnomasters · 17/12/2024 22:15

Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 22:10

Hugs to you. If you feel as shite as I do right now, you’re not alone xx

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The shiteness has been non stop this month. Hugs to you also, I really hope it eases up soon for us all xx

MumChp · 17/12/2024 22:20

Onetwobuckeroo · 17/12/2024 20:55

Anyone else just struggling with life? It’s Christmas with young children, isn’t this supposed to be the best time ever? but I can’t help but wish for Spring.

Anyone else just feel like pulling the duvet over their heads and hoping to wake up in January? Or to just disappear?!

Christmas with small children is exhausting! I dream of being a bear asleep in the winter den! See you at spring!Don't judge yourself too hard! We all do our best and that's enough! Take care.

tiptoesfirst · 17/12/2024 22:23

I'm struggling too. I had to start home schooling my DS because he has really bad anxiety/depression and it's been a year and it's very hard. He's better out of school, but I find it hard. I've been reading about cPTSD and trying to help him and he's doing such a good job. But listening to him telling me about his fears is just soul-crushing. Also we both have a virus, and I'm just so tired.

It's the virus really I know, but just at the moment I wish I didn't have the virus because my DS needs me to be on my feet.

I'm sorry to hear that you are all struggling too. Flowers
Thanks for starting this thread.

Cafecontribution · 17/12/2024 22:23

Hugs to you all

I am fortunate enough that I normally have pretty robust mental health, but even I am struggling with all the extra pressure of getting my paid work done before year end, plus the million & one extra things I need to do.

I really feel like schools should cut back on what they are asking of parents at this time of year - DC’s school has been constant requests for my time / money and then they’ve been getting the kids all whipped up about Xmas since November……

After hitting rock bottom last Xmas I have massively dialled back this year. Told non-local family we aren’t visiting (we visited in October & will go again in Jan/Feb). Only buy for kids & don’t do Xmas cards. But it still feels overwhelming.

Its so telling my mental health has been good all year now Christmas comes and I’m declining, and struggling to find the time to do the things that help me like exercise.

Christmas is such a con.

tiptoesfirst · 17/12/2024 22:26

We've pretty much entirely cancelled Christmas. DS can't handle is. It's much more peaceful tbh. Getting rid of all the school weirdness really helped too.

Scutterbug · 17/12/2024 22:32

Yes I’m struggling too. Actually taking risks in the hope it ends things which is a bit silly.

WonderingWanda · 17/12/2024 22:41

I think mostly it's the short hours of daylight and lots of cloudy days. It's nearly time for the days to start getting longer so it will all start feeling better soon.

spinspinspinthewheel · 17/12/2024 22:41

Yes massively struggling. Desperately trying to keep a happy face on for my kid. My mum died this year and Christmas is making me burst into tears often.

money stress. Work stress. Alone as a single parent and my dad very ill.

everything is shit.

tiptoesfirst · 17/12/2024 22:45

@spinspinspinthewheel That sounds hard. I'm sorry.

I suppose we're a bit the same. My DM has dementia and this is the first year when I can't talk to her, and my DH's DM has cut contact with him. His Dad died.

My Dad is good but we all have a virus and I'm not well enough to phone yet.

Gosh so much at once.

Littlemiracles232504 · 17/12/2024 22:48

I'll join, I'm massively overwhelmed with everything at the moment, 4 kids under 6 and we've had back to back illnesses since October, I lost my best friend on the 1st October too, life just feels really lonely at the minute even though I'm surrounded by little ones, Christmas is turning my anxiety through the roof and it's both my boys birthdays at Christmas too, I'm just a shouty overwhelmed mess at the moment, I'm just praying that the new year is better than this one, I'm about ready to take the tree down and call it a year tbh...