Haveacuppaandwaitforthistoblowover ·
18/11/2024 14:35
Hi,
This will be long. (Sorry)
I have written this without changing my name or anything because I'm past caring and if I am identified, somehow so be it.
Im going through one of the absolute WORST times of my life. To the point I am so close to suicide. The only reasons I'm here is because I have a son and a dog. My children's father is in the picture but he is also not in a good way with whats happened.
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So my daughter is 14 and since she was 12 things started going bad with her behaviour. One morning she was screaming at her brother (15) at 6am over who was using the shower first, I got up and told them both to stop arguing then before I knew it they were physically fighting so I had to tear them apart, my daughter wouldn't stop and started ripping my hair out so her father had to restrain her!
I was absolutely disgusted with her and sent her to school saying we would be having serious words when she came home. She never came home. I had a social worker on the phone just as I was about to leave to collect her saying I'd been accused of assault and she can't be at home. My son however was fine to be at home?
I was gutted, she was put with her gran on her fathers side and I said no because I didn't get on with this woman as her behaviour became quite inappropriate with drinking and lying about it, in the past around my children but I wasn't listened to.
A month after checks and police interviewing me, I got my child back, case closed.
Then in September 2022, only a couple of months later the behaviour was bad again, trying to drink, seeing boys, talking to inappropriate people online, fighting with gangs of kids in the local area.
I called the social work to try and get some help for her as clearly she was struggling with something IT WAS THE WORST THING I EVER DONE.
Their answer was to put her at the grans again, I said no, then my daughter ended up going there herself to delete evidence of what she was doing online (I had taken her phone) as I was going to the police and the gran helped her access her social media to delete messages incase she got in trouble!
I had to FORCE social work to put my child with their dad in another house if not mines and not the gran as they tried to say she was the better option!!
So for a month she lived with her dad and then came home. All was OK for a while, then same behaviours and this time I found out she was having under age sex! I went ballistic at the mother who allowed my daughter in her home unsupervised! Nobody was interested.
Then she started talking to a 15 year old boy and I wouldn't allow him in the house for periods of time (she was still 12) the only time he came in was when he was waiting for an hourly bus and they were with me. I wasn't happy about it but the fact I was trying to keep her on side to keep an eye on her, I didn't have alot of choice. Nobody would actually support me and was terrified of losing her again.
Fast forward the gran got wind I wouldn't allow him in the house properly, so she of course started inviting him round without me knowing and the boy raped my daughter as the gran let them drink alcohol.
I eventually found out and went to the police, the boy got charged but the gran denied being in the house! She got away with it!
I really hate this woman, she blamed my daughter for it happening (she was fucking 12)! Yet my daughter still wanted to see her!? She lived a 5 minute walk so it caused so many issues.
To cut a very already long story short my daughter ended up in care June 2023 at 13 years old, as I could no longer cope with it all. The lying, fighting, going missing, smashing buildings up and being brought home by police, you name it, she done it.
I broke my heart with it all. I never signed anything as it was only supposed to be voluntary and temporary. However my child has realised being in a children's unit gets her exactly what she wants. Staff can't stop her from leaving, she can access drugs, alcohol, do whatever she wants! She was suppost to go into a secure unit in June this year but the soft Scottish law said "give her another chance" even though at 14 years old since being out of my care she has slept with 8 men, had STIs, went missing for full weekends, done cocane, had drug dealers after her.
The social workers have been a joke! I've lost my shit with them. They judge me not being able to cope with her but what have they done to actually keep her safe or improve her?? NOTHING!
I found a recording on my child's phone of a social worker speaking about me to her and her gran in an unprofessional manner and nothing got done. Her other social worker was caught being off sick meanwhile conducting a business on Facebook and the ONLY reason she was caught by me is because she served my friend one of her products and spoke about her job! Not my actual case but gave her name etc! Again, nothing got done, when I complained!
Worst bit now, if you got this far is in July 2024 the gran got her so drunk on access outing my daughter passed out in a pub and had to go to hospital! The gran denied who she was and wouldn't comply with the paramedics! Police finally charged her with supplying alcohol to a minor (which apparently she was doing alot) and child endangering. SHE STILL SEES MY DAUGHTER!
I haven't saw my daughter properly since February this year. I am living on edge and told I can't see her as we don't get on.
I have NO charges and never have had for child abuse to her. This woman still has!
Social work and her lawyer, along with children panels have worked against me. It doesn't matter what I do, they won't listen. It doesn't matter what the reports say or anything to the point I'm actually paranoid thinking are people being paid to cover up ALL the mistakes and neglect they have done?? "She is close to her gran, we need to maintain that relationship as she has nobody else" ARE THEY JOKING? SHE HAS ME AND HER DAD AND BROTHER!
There is another panel on the 29th and I'm just about to give up. I can't do this anymore. I'm not who I used to be. I have a lawyer finally and she doesn't understand any of this and how it's got this far.
I hurt every night and miss my daughter, she hates me. Drinking, drugs and being allowed to see a woman who allowed her to be raped and drunk to the point she needed to go to hospital won't be helping that!
What do I do here?? Seriously? How can this actually be allowed??
Thanks for reading.