I find it hard what to write not great at articulating.
finished school (28 now) and got a scholarship in finance spent years working from 17. 2 older brothers and father all in a trade. Managed to save enough to get a mortgage on a place with my first love was with her for 7 years. After 3 months I walked in one day and a guy was in my bed with her. I left and it was hard and had to go back with parents. This caused me to drink or other things and I had a hard time (always working) now I have got things together but it’s still not easy. I recently had my vehicle crashed into and I lost my deposit and didn’t have gap insurance currently now in a very seducled location with my parents and 40 mins to the nearest bus stop. They open all my post and they tell me because of my times when I was depressed and drinking that I shouldn’t get another car. They tell me there’s no point getting all the work I try to get (I do a trade now too) because im just going to waste the money. All my family drink every night without fail they need to. A lot aswell. They constantly tell me im an alcoholic because while I was in a bad way I did have drink one day in the morning. I agree it’s bad but I don’t drink daily and I cannot pull them up on their drinking without them going mad but I have to just take it being me with the huge problem. I even have gone to AA meetings which I found really good but me doing so has been used against me asking why I went to the meetings. They don’t realise they have a problem I feel proud I can atleast admit these moments I’ve had are wrong and have tried my best to make sure it doesn’t happen again. My question is how do I approach them and get them to actually respect me. It really hurts that I’m told there’s no point getting a van because of things in the past or there’s no point me working everytime I win some work I tell my parents and I’d love them to be happy for me but instead it’s ‘you’re just going to waste the money anyway’ and when this is the response sometimes I actually feel like maybe they’re right. What’s the point :/ but I’m focused on staying strong and proving them wrong but it’s not easy. Shouldn’t the people closest to me be helping me and building me up not pushing me down ?