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Husband recovers from depression

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madgiemadge · 04/10/2024 12:16

Sounds good but I am struggling to cope with his change of personality. He has had depression 50 years, all the time I’ve known him. Now he is not prepared to put up with issues, people who annoy him. His temper is volatile, he shouts. “I don’t understand him”. I don’t know what to do. We cannot communicate and I am at my wits end. Is there anyone on here who has experienced this?

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MeMyCatsAndI · 04/10/2024 14:59

Sounds like mania. Are you sure he doesn't have bi polar?

cestlavielife · 04/10/2024 15:04

He would never get physically angry.

Please do not assume that
You literally do not know
Be careful

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madgiemadge · 04/10/2024 15:06

DespairCalling · 04/10/2024 14:51

I dont think his psychiatrist will speak to you about him without his explicit permission

I wondered about that too, but my husband has agreed to it. I’m still not sure if it’s a possibility I am waiting for a call from his secretary.

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madgiemadge · 04/10/2024 15:07

cestlavielife · 04/10/2024 15:04

He would never get physically angry.

Please do not assume that
You literally do not know
Be careful

Yes I’m aware of that. Thanks for saying it.

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madgiemadge · 04/10/2024 15:08

MeMyCatsAndI · 04/10/2024 14:59

Sounds like mania. Are you sure he doesn't have bi polar?

Yes I think so too but he keeps saying it’s not that. He was diagnosed bipolar ages ago but that was different, maybe this is a new kind for him. Thank you for your input.

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madgiemadge · 04/10/2024 15:16

cestlavielife · 04/10/2024 14:32

Ask gp to refer you to counsellor to talk from your perspective

Thanks for that suggestion. Although I fear the length of time for me to see my own counsellor might be too late. Maybe I’ll try a private one.

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FlyingontheGround · 04/10/2024 16:56

madgiemadge · 04/10/2024 13:29

Thank you very much for this. It sounds similar. I don’t know if the meds ever helped all the years he suffered really badly from depression. Now maybe he has gone into a different phase of it. I am seriously starting to think we may have to separate but it’s so sad as he is ill. Friends tell me I need to think about myself more. At the moment I am waiting for the hospital to phone me as I want to speak to his psychiatrist on my own. I really appreciate your comment.

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I’m sorry I don’t have anything more positive to say to you, it just resonated and I wanted you to know you’re not the only one.

I hope you find a way past it OP, we’re navigating divorce now and he’s still very up and down but at least I’m not worrying about what mood he’ll be in when I come
home now.

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madgiemadge · 04/10/2024 17:12

FlyingontheGround · 04/10/2024 16:56

I’m sorry I don’t have anything more positive to say to you, it just resonated and I wanted you to know you’re not the only one.

I hope you find a way past it OP, we’re navigating divorce now and he’s still very up and down but at least I’m not worrying about what mood he’ll be in when I come
home now.

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I’m so sorry the way forward for your relationship was a divorce but I totally get it. Who knows if mine will survive this. We have been together nearly 50 years, and I have supported him through his despair. It has been hard for me too. I hope we can get through the next bit. Thank you for taking the time to write, it really helps to know I am not alone. Xx

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