Homeless and 18weeks pregnant

[Michah89]

Well my partner brought me to Glasgow for England to live then decides he don't want me so now I have to leave I'm homeless and pregnant he waited for me to give our house up then does this to me. I don't speak to any of my family cos of him so what do I do now?

OP you need to shape up, you're having a baby and will soon be responsible for them. Your boyfriend has led you up the garden path and you've naively followed him. You're responsible for getting to appointments, so reorganise it and sort out an Uber or bus to get there.

If you think he'll become aggressive when you leave, contact a domestic abuse organisation, your midwife will know what's available locally.

In future, don't fall for absolute crap about women not working and not being able to leave the house. It's nonsense and you should avoid men who come out with it.

Do the Freedom Programme to learn about healthy relationships. Organise going to your friends house and see if you can reconnect with your family as you're going to need support.

Why on earth did you think a relationship with this man this was a good idea?!

You need to move back home, change your number and never speak to him again. EVER. And 100% do not NOT put him on the birth certificate. The last thing you want is to give this man parental responsibilities when he can take your baby and swan off with it and be totally covered by his community. I used to work closely with travellers and gypsys. They used their IDs interchangeably and 95% of the men had outstanding warrants and a trail of crimes following them but as a community they totally covered for each other. It's a complete and utter disaster bringing a baby into that sort of shit show.

He sounds abusive he's made you cut off your family and friends and stop working, you're well rid! Contact somebody you can trust from your family for support and speak to your midwife and explain what's happened, they'll be able to give you guidance aswell

He's very abusive we already lost a baby last year and this is how he goes on Wen I'm pregnant

I’m so sorry OP that sounds like a really difficult situation. You will need to transfer your pregnancy care to your new area and let you midwife know what is going on, they will be able to signpost you towards support available etc, and update your UC claim.

You said you were claiming UC so you must have access to that.

Speak to them and speak to your midwife.

You are having a baby with a man that is abusive. Now is the time to start putting things in motion so that you can protect your baby.

I hope things will work out for you. Make sure you let social services know you're moving.

My scans been rebooked for next week plus booked a private scan to find out what I'm having , thanks for all the advice

Won't they tell you at the NHS one, they did at both mine.

In your situation I wouldn't spend money on a private scan as nhs hospitals will tell you what you're having anyway.

No the hospital I'm delivering at won't tell me but I'm thinking I might just leave it as a suprise