Homeless and 18weeks pregnant

[Michah89]

Well my partner brought me to Glasgow for England to live then decides he don't want me so now I have to leave I'm homeless and pregnant he waited for me to give our house up then does this to me. I don't speak to any of my family cos of him so what do I do now?

Go back to your family, you need their support.

Absolutely,

Contact Shelter for advice.
https://www.shelter.org.uk/

Speak to your midwife. She will be able to feed you into local services.

He won't even help me to my app tomorrow it's my 18week scan saying get next man to take you wtf man I've never cheated on him.ever . My family won't speak to me

Where did you live before and how long have you been in Glasgow? If you have any kind of suport network in your old city, I'd go back. Once baby is born he could make it difficult to move away, so go now if you can.

Do you have any friends who could have you for a few days? Or any chance of repairing things with your family? If you fell out with them due to him, they might be happy to move on now he's out of the picture.

Longer term you will need to report as homeless to the council of wherever you are living (if you only just moved, as ìt sounds like, you could probably came a connection to you old city, if you've been gone a while, they might say Glasgow are responsible). You can probably get your midwife to provide supporting evidence to help with priority banding. Unfortunately it probably will be temporary accommodation for a while.

I guess your point of contact would be your midwife so I would start there
Would your family let you stay now you have left him?

you need to get in touch with your family and build bridges

Report as homeless to your local council, and explain what your ex has done. I think it sounds like he has been domestically abusive through isolating you from family/friends. So make sure you tell the council this. Also report him to the police if so. Reports will help you be taken seriously by services, which you need.

He didn't didn't take me to my app today for my scan so I'm going to ring them first thing and book Friday when I get paid and book it for there . He's stopped me working

Are you on uc? If so you need to update your claim (you may get more), and if not start a new one. You will probably find that even on benefits, you will have more access to money then with someone financially abusive.

Look up sure start maternity grant, it's a one off £500 to get baby essentials (though you can spend on anything, so I'd view getting a roof over you and babies head as the most essential thing. There's always someone giving away used baby stuff)

Do you know what you will do about maternity leave? If you aren't working you won't get SMP, but if you have worked recently, might still qualify for maternity allowance.

Yeah I'm on universal credit my friend has just moved in with he boyfriend and still got her house so she said I can use her house I'm going back to Durham on Friday

Contact the local council housing department today.

Email your family and apologise. Tell them what has happened. Specifically ask for their help. There are few families who wouldn't respond in those circumstances. Eat humble pie if necessary.

Talk to your midwife.

And in the future, never ever give up your home or income for anyone until there is a ring on your finger and your name on the deeds, and even then, only with great caution. You always need to be able to walk away.

Good luck.

I can't believe someone who says they love you and wants live with you can do this to you

How is he stopping you working or stopping you getting to scans? If he is physically preventing you, you need to call the police. if he is simply absent, and you don't want to do these things on your own, sorry, but you need to step up, as you have a tiny little being dependant on you now and you need to be there for them

You will be fine - I have done it all alone, and to be honest, it is easier and more fun. You are the boss, no negotiations, no undermining, no compromising, noone else to expecting you to cook and clean for them, and wanting to discipline in a different way

I think once you go back to Durham you update your UC journal and claim housing allowance for your friends house. You'll need a rental agreement. Can your friend give you one? Contact your family and tell them he has dumped you at 18 weeks pregnant. Give your family a chance to reconnect with you. Remember your DC will be their grandchild. Most parents would envelope you back and support you. If your family want to slag off your ex let them. Tell your parents you want them to be part of your DC life.

Wouldn't take me to my app but I will sort something out

Can you not get there at all ? Bus ? Taxi ?

When you do have the baby don't try and force him to be involved, if he can do this to you while pregnant who knows what else he might be capable of. Just go back to your family and lie low.

That's a great start. If you need to rebook the scan anyway, might be worth seeing if it can be booked at a Durham hospital instead (if that's where friends house is). Then your not waiting around for it. You'll need to get your midwife care transferred back anyway.

How long will your friends be able to let you stay? Is it a rental, and if so would you be able to get it transferred into your name? If no can you stay long enough for you to scrape together a deposit for a private rental? Then you can get the rental element of uc to cover it.

Well she's moved in with her boyfriend so she said I can take it over plus she already got cot and that there

Baby due 31st December

Make sure you keep your UC updated of any changes. You don't want your money stopped

Apply for the maternity grant( used to be £500?)
Inform your midwife.
If you're from the Durham area originally, you'll need to transfer maternity care there
Consider emailing your family.

Why is he stopping you from getting to your appointments or working? Why did you give up yr house?

Because he was suppose to take me to my app and he's a gypsy and there woman don't work. He's took everything from me