This isn't normal is it (TW - suicide)

[BeEasyonYourself]

Over the course of the last 12 months 6 friends have died by suicide. The latest being yesterday. I'd known him since I was about 9 and he's left his wife (known her about the same time) and two little kids. Other losses are my ex-BIL (we were all still friends), my friend's fiance and three other friends.

It's not normal is it? Over my life I've had an average of two friends a year die by suicide or OD or alcohol related illness. Has anyone else experienced this? I am massively struggling and I suppose just want to know I'm not alone.

Thank you but I can't see this ever happening for me.

@BeEasyonYourself you matter, you deserve to find happiness, you deserve to treat yourself, whether that's a walk in some sunshine, drinking a coffee and really relaxing or sitting and reading a book. You deserve time for you to just be. You also deserve a big hug, I can only send a virtual one but the sentiment is there.

Hi @BeEasyonYourself. Your first step should be to get rid of your useless, abusive husband. You deserve better than he gives you.

My childhood was shit. No parents. In care. Neglect, abuse, no support.

I'm now 52. Three kids. Recently divorced from a man I should never have married and who I stayed with longer than I should. But I'm doing great. Stronger than I ever knew I was. Managing, coping, thriving more than I would ever have believed. I've made three attempts on my life, lots of therapy most of which didn't help but once I got the right kind of therapy and the right person, who I've been seeing for 14months it got me to a place where I knew I should leave.

If I can do it. You can do it. I'm doing it with zero birth family but with incredible children and amazing friends.

I'm happy for you that you made it through! I just don't know if I'm strong enough.

I have another funeral in a few days and a friend has absconded from hospital two days ago, still with cannula in, stating as he left that he was suicidal. We're out searching now but I doubt it's going to be good news. Where does this fucking end.

You are @BeEasyonYourself and you can decide to be so. What's the alternative?

It has been incredibly hard to get to this point and I've paid heavy prices but I feel at peace now in a way I never have before. As each success and win happens I remember it and it use it going forward. I decide.

Can you?

please do not use the word commit suicide... it implies fault or blame!

may i ask.. the life styles of these people who have taken their own lives? were drugs and alcohol involved?

and before anyone jumps on me, i have lost a son to suicide.. no warning, no depression, no other factors, just woke up one morning and decided that day was the day he wanted to die (22)

So I'm not allowed to say commit suicide but you think it's acceptable to ask If people who are mentally unwell and have lost their fight are abusing drugs and alcohol. Don't reply to this I don't want to talk to you that has seriously pissed me off

I'm so sorry. Yes, all of my friends were involved in drink and drugs. Three of them, they couldn't tell if it was deliberate suicide due to the level of ketamine in their system.

So so sorry to hear about your son. Some of my friends were only teenagers when they passed. Such a waste.

oh get over yourself...

@Differentstarts ...OP has replied... i did not once suggest every single person who loses their life to suicide is on drugs or alcohol.

it is a terrible waste.. the harm that drugs and alcohol does is horrific.

It is preffered to say to take one's own life rather than the out of date phrase to commit suicide because it's putting the act in a similar category like to commit murder. To not use the phrase to commit suicide is to try and lift the shame off the Act of taking ones life. It is still seen as a shameful act by some religious members of society.

Stepson took his own life after a night on Stella and coke. No MH problems. I can't begin to describe the waste of life caused bythat split second act. The shock and the hurt the loss of a promising life. It's like your life is a story book and it abruptly ends there and that person gets left behind and remembered only by a few.
It is better to try and battle on and change your life and try and leave your mark in a better way than being talked about on Facebook every now and again when a reminder pops up.
Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.

im sorry for your loss... sometimes it would make it easier if my son had taken his life by accident if that makes sense.. but there were no drugs, no alcohol.. he simply decided that day was the day!

I'm sorry for what you have gone through @thursdaymurderclub .
I don't think it was accidental we think it was intentional in that moment; he definitely meant to do it.

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