Feel worried insecure

[Keely199]

So my partners best mate has got a née partner she's really beautiful blonde hair slim the exact opposite to me a chubby brunette I can't stop thinking my partner will meet her and realise what an ugly fat fuck am In comparison to her wish I didn't feel this but knowing hoz beautiful she is makes me think he's going to feel that way towards me no nasty comments please don't need to feel worse than I already do 😢

Would you leave your partner if your best friend started dating a hunky guy?

No of course you wouldn’t.

We are all insecure at times but insecurity and neediness is what puts off our partners- not looks, size, hair colour.

There are no words I can say that makes her less attractive and you more attractive. All you can do is realise is that this adult man has chosen you to be with and no one else. Accept this is a wobble in your head, not something that is shaking the foundations of your relationship.

Well she is hardly the first person that your partner has seen, who looks like that. He could have gone after that type if he wanted to. Value yourself, there is nothing like a person who exudes confidence.

OP

Even people that papers state are beatuiful//elegant/sophisticated/etc/etc have the same fears as you do at times - so try not to worry

If someone OH is going to cheat/deceive/leave, there is not a lot that anyone could do

People will leave people for various reasons and if people go out of their home, they will more often than not encounter what others deem to be good-looking people. Therefore, try not to worry

Go out, have a lol, try to be happier if possible

I have noted via work and my clients that people who were pretty depressed most of the time, did at times have a negative impact on their OH. However, IMO, if someone really loves their OH, they will stay loyal and help a person through hard times

Finally, being "attractive" is in the eyes of the beholder!!!

My friend says I'm beautiful but I knoz. It isn't true this woman is stunning nice clothes nuce hair I have nothing just look like a fat cunt typical looking ugly mum

I think he might be meeting is friend today as well I'm. Hoping she won't be there while I'm sat here ugly as fuck only ozwn while hes out in front of a beautiful women hate myself if I didnt have 3 children that nned me I'd go and kill myself 😭

No I wouldn't I just can't shake these feelings of, 😭

I'm sat at home. While he might be in a room with her she's got long bmond hair looks like silk tanned makeup done and nice clothes I look like a big fat sack of shit even when I do try to look beautiful

We don't have a baby sitter doubt he wouldn't to be seen with me anyway 😢
Sorry for ranting feel quiet sad thinking about him being in the same room as someone far better than me hope I never meet her to be honest itl trigger me.

This is going to sound harsh but, this is the most ridiculous thing I've seen on here this far and I'm not a argumentative type of person.

I have 4 children and fighting to stay alive because of my mental illness. I have an amazing husband but I will tell you right now, if he chose to go and cheat or meet someone new, that's his loss.

You need to think more of yourself and get some self worth. What she lacks, you may have. I'm chunky, and to be honest, I really don't care because all I want is to be happy.

Always chose your children over your partner. I sometimes catch my hubby checking out another girl, just like i probably check out a nice looking guy. Its human!

Pick yourself up girl, value your worth ❤️

I'd always choose my children it's ok your right I feel very unattractive and awful today never have a chance to do anything nice for myself this girl is glamorous well dressed etc she's a mum to so feel like a tramp in comparison just feeling jealous and down on myself today 😭

We all have days like that. I wish I was thinner etc but I genuinely just want to be happy, go do something for yourself like a nice hot bath or get your hair and nails done x

Think I will get my hair and nails done next week thanks for the idea I'm having a bath later wash my hair needs it just stuck in a rut with mum bun no makeup and leggings feel I could better on my appearance lol

Partner in bed I'm hoping he doesn't go out tonight in case she's there omg she's drop dead gorgeous like a model 100 times better than me in looks and body I couldn't even look as sexy for my partner even if I tried with hair makeup clothes etc it really getting to me knowing he'll be sat near her I hate this feeling thinking he doesn't compliment me at all hasnt done In years don't thbk he finds me attractive anynore not surprised stretch marks big belly and gained weight I'm thinking gel be enjoyed checking her out 😭

She's like one of those gorgeous women out of love island you know really glamorous perfection I like looks this just to prove I ain't attention seeking I was trying on a dress her sorry.

This is me look gross ugly just to prove i

She has children and still looks beautiful unlike me fat ugly worthless pig surprised my partner has had an affair don't blame him I deserve to be hurt for being an dog

Oh op; you are being far too hard on yourself. I mean this kindly… you are not going to hate yourself in to losing weight or keeping your dh interested, if that’s what you want to work on.

I am overweight and if my dh leaves me over that then I would think he is being pretty shallow tbh as he has put on weight too since we met. Is your husband a sizzling sex God of a man with no imperfections? 😀😀

I am old enough to be your mum op, and if one of my adult dds came to me saying these sorts of things, I would wonder what her dh had been saying to her to make her feel so insecure? Does he treat you kindly and respectfully op? Does he do his bit with the dc?

When you say that he probably wouldn’t want to be seen dead with you, is that him speaking, or your insecurities?

Come on op, you have 3 dc, you have more important things to worry about and anyway, to me, Love Island looks = fake! Time to pull up your Big Girl pants! Focus only on what you can control. It really is a waste of energy worrying about anything else. You have a healthy body and 3 dc. The best thing you can do for them is lead by example. Would you want your dd talking this way about herself? What would you say to her if she was?

I really like your dress by the way! 😀

Don’t let any imagined scenario get in the way of you enjoying the here and now. Comparison makes fools of us all. Life is so short and yes it can be very hard too, but in between, there are so many things to be thankful for without imagining catastrophes in our own head! Love is ultimately all that matters and that includes loving yourself too!

Thank you so kind im very emotional today trying not to burst into tears I'm thinking the worst like he's going to be picturing her naked and having sex etc I was told by my own family grandma and uncle that I was fat and ugly and miss sisters beautiful because she's slim use to say it to me often.

My mum isn't in my life shes in and out of prison I don't get on with her she's not very nice to me I haven't spoken to her in about 4 years.

I want be happy I want to make my partner happy give him the partner he deserves to with feel so ugly lile what have I done wrong to be so unattractive.

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Just wish I was her to be honest life would be easier and my partner would love it to having a sexy partner all men prefer that if they have the option.

Well it sounds like your mum never taught you how to love yourself op, you were never given that example, and the rest of your family sounds abusive, so maybe you could do with some support with that if you can access any talking therapies in your area? There will probably be a long wait but you could ask your gp to put you on the list?

And honestly, if your dh is a decent man, then I am certain he finds you very attractive as you are, and he will value you for your character and for being the mother of his dc. Looks fade op, it’s what’s inside that’s more important. And ime men have different ideas about what they find attractive to what we women think they do! 😀

Please reach out for some support to work on your self esteem op. Your dc need a happy, confident mum who feels at ease with herself. Everyone has insecurities. There is no point in dwelling on them. Far better to ignore and work on what we can improve. Good luck.

Thank you Il feeling so emotional hid in bed crying I feel so down

Don't think my partner finds me attractive hes in tik tok as well there women I see on there are the opposite to me there's a pretty well made up woman on a tik tok live when he's on his phone I hate it because mudt be thinking why doesnt my Mrs look like that I have good days but tofah I just want to end my life so he can find someone better and maybe a better mother than me.