Feel worried insecure

[Keely199]

So my partners best mate has got a née partner she's really beautiful blonde hair slim the exact opposite to me a chubby brunette I can't stop thinking my partner will meet her and realise what an ugly fat fuck am In comparison to her wish I didn't feel this but knowing hoz beautiful she is makes me think he's going to feel that way towards me no nasty comments please don't need to feel worse than I already do 😢

He didn't go out but he's downstairs on phone I seen a girl on there definitely only,with me because he cant get anyone better so he's settled for far less yeah me fat sack of shit h so said there out of his league which why he settled for ugly cunt like myself im So hurt

He's always noticing other women and there always the exact opposite to me not an inch of fat rolls or ugly like me. I look like Martha the actor from baby reindeer fat and unwanted in favour of the other woman it is painful I hate myself I have nothing about my face or body that is good Im hoping he cheats give me what I deserve only thinh deserve is to be hurt

You posts are heartbreaking to read.

Your are not ugly, you have a really pretty face and your dress looks lovely on you!

How old are you? You look quite young, does you partner say these things to you? How does he treat you?

Did he not go out because of how you feel?
He obviously finds you attractive and a good mother or he wouldn't have had 3 children with you!

Please be kinder you yourself , you wouldn't say these things to a friend or your daughter if they felt this way.

What would you say to them? What would you want them to do ?

You are loved, your children need you. To them you are the most amazing woman on earth and no one will ever be able to replace you 💖 xx

How are you feeling this morning @Keely199

A bit better partner isn't speaking to me this morning he's hurt I told him I wanted to kill myself silly me 😭 I would never do that just had a really bad day I didn't tell him he already knows how I feel about myself im easily triggered I hate it he didn't go out nothing to do with me I don't think.

I just feel 2nd best sometimes like he could do better if he tried hard enough I look at his mates type of women and think he could get that I find it hard to see any beauty in myself most of the time partner hasn't complimented me for as long as I can remember he never tells me I look beautiful or anything when I do make an effort makes me feel insecure.

You poor girl.

It sounds like he did stay in for you, therefore putting you first.

Have you ever had therapy or counselling?

How long have you guys been together?
How old are you?
How old are your kids?

You need to find your self worth.
Only you can make you happy, you need to figure out what happiness is to you and make it happen.

Also change your mindset, If my DH cheated on me it's his loss as far as I'm concerned..

You will push him away regardless of your appearance with the mindset youre in right now.

My friend is an example of that... She is drop dead gorgeous but she is so insecure shes pushed countless partners away and she has now been single for 3 years.
She can't understand why ...

Beauty is skin deep, you are more than what you look like.

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We been together going on 14 years I'm 32 dds are 1 7 and 13

Iv had cbt before going through comparing myself to pretty girls Instagram doesn't help, 😢

Iv deleted my account and deleted the app it won't delete the account til the end of May but I'm going to stay of social media.

Just want to get married one day and actualy be able to fit into a wedding dress I knoz is late will be marrying this girl shel look beautiful as bride I just want that to be me a beautiful bride feels like I'm never have thst day.

I keep imagining her being the centre of attention over me at my wedding that nobody would be interested in my shel take all the attention away from me witj he looks and body.

Bless you,

I don't want to sound mean but if you want to look a certain way your gonna have to make those changes ,
Lose some weight, do the exercises.. take some time to learn hair and make up techniques... Go clothes shopping .. maybe this girl can help and give tips.. I dunno but You're not going to roll out of bed one day and look like how you imagined..

its the same for any thing.. you don't get good grades with out revising . You don't get a well paid job with out putting the hours and hard work in.

If you're miserable with how you look make some changes. Only you can do it .. either mentally or physically xxx

Have you changed in appearance much on those 14 years you've been with your partner? Xx

Your right being beautiful comes at price I'l have to change to feel good about myself it's the fact she's got kids and looks like that I don't have any time to dolled up like that every morning she's stunning his friend got lucky feel sorry for my partner having a partner who looks dog meat even when I'm slimmer I wasn't happy I was size 14 thought I was morbidly obese I only need to lose 2 dress sizes but I know I'm. Never come close to her my legs are awful full of bulging vericose veins that are very noticeable to others just wish I didn't have so many flaws every inch of my body is scared bruised and apron belly full of stretchmarks saggy boobs I need a miracle I'm beyond repair like a wrote of vehicle that needs to be crushed.

You never know .. she may actually envy you.

You're still with your partner and I'm assuming father of your children.. you still have your family unit. She doesn't.

Yes iv put on weight and my body has changed completely I spent years dieting and exercising and still never go to the weight or shape I want to be my stomach just got worse and worse adding a c section overhang onto that.

Iv never met her in my life just seen photo of her on he fb profile I had a nosey since my partner told his mate he's punching above it making it clear she's attractive over me nobody had ever said that to him about me proves that I'm dog meat in comparison to her don't ever want to meet her I'm scared anxious It will be awkward as and I doubt a girl like her will entertain speaking to me or even like me for that matter
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Well your partner still wants to be with you despite what you look like. If he wanted to leave he would have.

Please be kinder to yourself, you are beautiful. Every body is beautiful You have created 3 lives within your body,

Your healthy and alive and can watch your babies grow.

You have a partner and family,
I imagine a lot of people would sacrifice their bodies to have what you have.

Try and focus on the positives and all the things you do have in your life 😊

I'm being called Martha basically I'm big fat morbidly obese stalker like the actor.

I don't know who Martha is ... Who's calling you that?

My partner this is her shes an actor in baby reindeer episodes she acts as the stalker.

Well you are obviously not that large from your picture you put up... And why is your partner calling you that? What a dick

He's not the one who deserves better .. YOU ARE!

I assume he has the physique of a greek god?