Help me now!

[Stayreal]

I found out recently my OH is having an affair so we are separated. Not divorced. It’s recent.
Just found out he is in the same city as her “on business” and can’t guarantee to me he won’t bump into her through “mutual work friends”. I have a gut feeling in my stomach.
how can I stop myself going beserk?!!!

please I need strong women to my aid!!!

This may come across as harsh. He is not good for you, and you need to accept that your relationship as you knew it is OVER. He is not good for you. He has betrayed you. It's going to be hard, but unless you stand up for yourself and leave this in the dirt where it belongs, it will destroy you. You say you have supportive friends. That is good. Do they acknowledge/understand what he has done? What do they say to you about it...

Thank you so much for the replies. I needed to hear supportive messages. It means so much!

They say what a……insert words here!!!
grow up etc etc
but then I say the stupid

but I love him..

I don’t actually know! I’m going off txts!

Move on OP and find someone worthy of you. I know it's easier said than done but I'm sure he secretly loves the thought that you still want him while he's playing away. He's a dick, he'll probably cheat on the next woman while you build a better life with someone nicer.

You need to find your self worth. I'm guessing there were other issues in the relationship before you found out about his betrayal. Tell us. It might help you to see how you really will be better off without his drama in the long run...

Thank you! I pushed him for an answer and he said “I can’t do deep right now”. Said he was watching the football haha! So I said ok. Goodbye! Then he said something like “but I still want you in my life!”
Pah!!!! Blocked him! 😂

grow up the pair of you
there’s children involved
you can’t just block him OP. what about the children, the divorce, maintenance

He doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. He has been clear. And to say he still wants you in his life (I still want my ex in my life!! he’s a good man and a good dad to our children) doesn’t mean he wants to be married to you.
You have children and there seems to be lots of drama. He’s behaved appallingly BUT you will have to engage with him about the children and practical matters and you need to tone down the high drama for your children’s sake

He might end up with her.

Ignore him and move on.