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Sadness at Christmas.

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filthypride · 25/12/2023 11:54

I just feel shit.

Spent an hour watching everyone open presents and I got a one present which was a very small box of 6 chocolates, not that I'm not grateful but it's just sad.

Everybody had literal mountains of things.

I feel like the worst human in the world for not to get anything.

I haven't received a text/phonecall from anyone ...

Sometimes I wish I wasn't here. I often pray not to wake up.

Life is too hard. I want to know why I am hated so much. I try my fucking best with everyone. Help anyone. I really want to be liked by someone.

I spent two solid years listening to a friend on the phone every-single-day for hours talk about her relationship/life etc and she randomly ghosted me. Not once in those two years did she ask 'how are you today?'. And I'm not even lying.

I'm back in bed dosed up with sleeping pills to try and forget this day is happening.

Happy Christmas to anyone reading this.

xxx

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Ratfinkstinkypink · 25/12/2023 12:05

I hope the rest of the day is peaceful for you, it's a really hard day for so many people.

coodawoodashooda · 25/12/2023 12:09

Who are you with and why didn't they get you anything

susiedaisy1912 · 25/12/2023 12:10

Why didn't anyone get you anything op?

BCBird · 25/12/2023 12:11

I am sending u a handhold. Let the friend go. Is there anyway nxt yr you can choose not to be around the people you are with today? How about volunteering in a homeless place, serving food etc. It might be less disappointing spending Christmas by urself than with the people ur with today, if that is an option? Buy urself some nice gifts and fo as u please. Take care OP

MoisturiseYourMoose · 25/12/2023 12:13

Oh, sweetheart. It’ll be over in a couple of hours. I’m sorry you’re having a tough day. Flowers

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 25/12/2023 13:32

I'm sorry you're having a tough day. I never get anything for Christmas either and it's not nice but as I know I won't get anything, I buy myself a few things I wouldn't normally splurge on in the run up to Christmas. This year I bought myself some lovely clothes. Can you get yourself something in the sales after Christmas?

Jeyla1230 · 25/12/2023 13:36

I'm so sorry your having a tough day, if you need a chat I'm here I know you don't know me. But I'm here for you or anyone x

dressedforcomfort · 25/12/2023 13:51

Sending you love, OP.

Christmas can be hard for people for so many reasons. It's one day. Try and do whatever you need to in order to get through it. Be kind to yourself. You matter.

SmugglersHaunt · 25/12/2023 14:56

Sorry you’re having a bad day. I hate Christmas for this very reason! Still, it’s basically over now

endofthelinefinally · 25/12/2023 15:15

I have spent the day quietly with DH. We lost our son a few years ago and we don't do Christmas any more. We will have a zoom call with our other DC who are thousands of miles away, then we will have a tidy up and a drink and watch something on Netflix.
In my bereavement group there is a lovely man who lost his family in a car crash. Every year since then he has volunteered at Crisis at Christmas. He says it has saved his sanity. Another friend is volunteering in an animal shelter until after New Year.
You sound like a good person who hasn't met the right friends yet. Please don't just take sleeping pills, you are worthwhile, you can make a difference to someone. Why not consider whether there is something you could volunteer for over Christmas? You would probably make some new friends, meet some nice people. Flowers

KimMumsnet · 26/12/2023 11:08

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