2023/24 SAD thread

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Hi again, I’m back for another year ☹️. I can’t see that anyone has started a SAD thread yet but today seems to be the day that it’s really kicking in! So here’s another thread to support each other through winter 🥶.

Just to introduce myself, I have regular depression with SAD on top, an eating disorder and ASD (a fun combination).

All are welcome, the only rule is no one is allowed to mention, hygge, snuggling or being cosy!

Now feeling odd and wondering if I'm coming down with something....

The Christmas lunch went well yesterday. I was only out for about 4 hours in total and I came back and fell asleep on the sofa, then was in bed asleep by 10.30pm and up early this morning as was hoping my fridge freezer repair man would message to say he was coming today. He didn't...I was back in bed by 10.30 and slept for 5 hours.

Are you okay?

this makes me feel less worried, I might just be really tired.

Im okay in general. I'm already in bed for the night and feel like I'll be asleep early. I'm feeling that this is the after effects of being out stemming from my M.E.

Or it could also be my body trying to catch up on sleep as I've had a lot of stress over about 10 days and was only managing to sleep about 3/4 hours a night tops.

Super stressy day. Not over yet. I'm not sure why I feel so rubbish, probably poor sleep.

@MistyTrains2 Oh no, sorry to hear that. Hopefully it's all done now?

@NotanotherboxofFrogs I think that's the same as me - everyone seems to have slept badly last week and that's maybe what caught up with me.

btw I love your username 😂

Today about 8.30pm I remembered my own advice and did some stretching. Anything is better than nothing at this point!

Hello, sorry for disappearing for the last few days. Had a tough couple of days. Hope everyone is coping.
Sounds like everyone is struggling with extreme tiredness. The combination of poor sleep, lack of daylight and it being such a busy time is not great ( and worse I'm sure if you already have underlying conditions) so sending sympathy to all.

Thank you @EmmaEmerald the username stems from a group of children who play on the green in front of my house who keep collecting frogs in a shoe box and bring them over to show me every time they see me. I oww ahh at them and then they release them until next time..

Psychiatrist Appointment went well, now back in bed having a rest before I do anything else.

Bloody weather forecast was wrong again today

spent an hour waiting for a bus, in the pouring rain, never turned up.

sitting here crying AGAIN at my stupidity at moving. I think winters are going to be so much harder here but I'm stuck with it now.

how long does post-moving grief continue, it's been 8 months!

if the weather forecast was right, it would really help. What apps do others use? The forecast is just wrong all the time.

Yes I have ADHD, SAD, anxiety and lung disease. They affect me all of the time. It also does not help that my personality oscillates between quite laid back and running around so I constantly over promise or run myself to the ground.

I forgot my SAD lamp in the office today. I already feel more depressed! It is a challenge to remember to take the vitamins.

Going home to try and do some tidying.

I've really struggled with energy and motivation this winter. I just want to lie down and not do much and I'd happily forgo Christmas if we could not have winter any more. I don't find it romantic or cosy or any of that. Scraping ice off the car in the dark for the school run sucks. Cold, wind and rain likewise. The fact that we didn't really have a summer has not helped, I didn't get to properly recharge my batteries before the worse weather set in again. I'm counting down the days till the solstice now and then it's onwards and upwards a bit more.

@MistyTrains2 would it help if we reminded you re vitamins? I'm usually on MN with my coffee! I have set a reminder on my phone.

@DrCoconut I keep saying we didn't have a summer....it forms part of my regret in moving (the old flat was like an oven May through October)...my sister and my mother keep telling me we had one but that I was too ill to know.

I think they say we had one to make me feel better about moving! Though I suppose they are going to say anything to make me feel "better".

It took me ages to warm up after being out in the cold. I seem to feel the cold more each year. Are thick sports leggings the way to go maybe?

It's another day being written off due to ...bad planning? I dunno, the weather wasn't forecast to be like this, so I planned as well as I could.

@MistyTrains2 I mean I have a reminder in my phone for my vitamins

I’ve been forgetting my vitamins and my SAD lamp, what an idiot!

Haha just remembered to take them reading this.

I hoovered and tidied the study last night. I have to sort more papers. I am moving my life from paper to digital and I need to complete it in the winter as in the summer I want to be outside all the time!

I wonder if the answer to SAD is just to plan two separate lives, a summer one and a winter one? Maybe trying to keep the summer one in the winter is where I am going wrong, I don't know.

I do this already to some extent

But I'm struggling to even keep the flat tidy and paperwork in order this year and there's extra on all of this because of moving home.

Terrible sleep, been on MN all morning.

@teobeo Hi sorry you have to join but welcome!

I was feeling tearful again this morning but managed to put some laundry on and make a very very short list of things to do today.

I am actually going to try and have a nap as I slept so badly last night. At this point, even if I'm awake doing things at 2am as a result of the nap, that's a plus, because these things need doing.

Is no one else as irritated by the weather forecast? Completely wrong again today. Also, the "realfeel" temp is the important one - current temp " is" 7 but realfeel is 0. The latter is the only bit that's relevant, surely?

Welcome @teobeo 👋.

@MistyTrains2 the key for me would 100% be loving a summer lifestyle in winter buuuuut it was almost dark by 3:30pm and it’s 2° now so what else can you do but stay at home 😭?

Oh maybe I misunderstood

i thought @MistyTrains2 was saying to live completely different lives?

my energy reappeared before I napped. I have now done some cleaning and tidying, much needed! Then I did some stretching. Am pleased.

I think I need to take my St Johns Wort first thing. I'm going to put it on the bedside table.

Logic isn't my strong point at the moment, not really sure what I was meaning. I think I expect to just fly into winter. Like this year I was in the gym all summer, surely I could continue that. Lol I can barely do it. Then I feel utterly depressed as I hate failing. So maybe if I accepted that the exercise routine needs to feel different Mar - Sep and Oct - Feb this might help me.

God it is a struggle at the moment. I keep trying to work out why I feel so depressed. It is not my cycle, not due on, I'm on day 13 so should feel great. But the ear gremlins are out. I think I know why, I had some negative feedback at work. Gonna try and get a good night sleep.

@MistyTrains2 ""So maybe if I accepted that the exercise routine needs to feel different Mar - Sep and Oct - Feb this might help me."

Yes, I think that would help.

I've got lazy about working out generally but when I was a regular at the gym, I had a much easier routine in winter. Nov, Dec, Jan, if I did three easier workouts each week, I was happy with that. February I would build back up to my usual spring/summer workout.