My husband left me

[Abandoned1]

My husband works away during the week and was supposed to come home Thursday night and then said Friday - was meant to leave at 3pm but said he had to work late. At 6.30pm I text to say leave before it gets dark. He replied with check your emails.

In the email he said he wasn't coming home and was going away and will let me know if he wants to be with me when he gets back.

I have no family and friends.
He's all I have.

I have embroyos that I was meant to use this year.
I'm early forties.
I can't start again with another person and have kids.

He's taken my only chance of having a family too.

I have no family, friends, job, money, pension - now no marriage or a chance of a family of my own.

I don't even have the guts to commit suicide.

I don't even know why I'm writing this.

He hasn't gone for weeks or months before
He only goes for 4 days a week
I have a key to that house also

I said if he wanted to he could be gone for a long time as there is more than one house

Thanks I'll look into that organisation

I know the fixation on no work or friends when my marriage is over and I may be left childless!

you may - but there is little you can do about it if he decided to leave

so focus on things you can do something about like expanding social circle and getting back to work - even as a form of distraction

OP, I’m truly sorry this has happened to you. Im however pleased you have no guts to commit the unspeakable bcos you see , there’s light at the end of this understandably dark tunnel.
you’ll get through it.

if it’s any comfort , my friend is having her first , ALONE. She’s 44.

Thanks.
Congrats to your friend.
I'm really hoping he lets me use the Embryos.

This is absolutely horrible and heartbreaking. My only advice at the moment is to focus on YOU right now. I get it would be tempting to worry about him and what is going on with him. But when someone does something like this, this is your cue to do whatever you need to feel okay in this moment - regardless of him.

There are options open to you for the future. Stay on this thread and keep posting... We are here for you.

Actually it’s important to understand why she’s so isolated.

op, I’m surprised that he ended it on Friday by email and you’ve already asked if you can use the embryos.

is there a back story here, was the relationship not working for some time?

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