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Anyone had any good/bad experiences with therapy and CBT?

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James637 · 31/03/2023 22:59

Ive really been struggling with anxiety for a long time now and it’s particularly around certain issues should as ‘what ifs’ about the future. I’m 34 male and worried I’m running out of time to decide whether I want kids and it’s literally making my head spin constantly. I get ruminating thoughts about it and can’t just go with the flow of life and see what happens. I’m also petrified of my parents passing away! I’ve been told by doctors etc that I need to do therapy and particularly Cbt. I am going to do this and give it 100% but I’m kind of skeptical how it’s going to get me to a place where I’m laid back about this stuff. I feel like this is just my personality, I’m a big overthinker!

Ive heard good and bad things about therapy and cbt but interested to see what people on here have to say!

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Eyesopenwideawake · 04/04/2023 18:23

Or try studying it for your own personal development? Kain Ramsay's courses on Udemy are excellent.

ProfYaffle · 04/04/2023 18:45

I'm having general talking therapy rather than CBT. My daughter has had talking therapy, EMDR and self guided CBT. The overall experience has been transformative for us.

The only thing I would say is that CBT seems to be viewed as a cheap quick fix by a lot of providers such as NHS wellbeing services and employee assistance programmes. They often seem to offer things like 6 sessions of self guided CBT, my dd found that useless, it was rushed and generic, not at all tailored to her and her needs. Like all things, it can be done well or badly.

There are lots of different types of therapy, different things suit different people. Give it a go, if it doesn't help try something or someone else.

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James637 · 04/04/2023 19:36

ProfYaffle · 04/04/2023 18:45

I'm having general talking therapy rather than CBT. My daughter has had talking therapy, EMDR and self guided CBT. The overall experience has been transformative for us.

The only thing I would say is that CBT seems to be viewed as a cheap quick fix by a lot of providers such as NHS wellbeing services and employee assistance programmes. They often seem to offer things like 6 sessions of self guided CBT, my dd found that useless, it was rushed and generic, not at all tailored to her and her needs. Like all things, it can be done well or badly.

There are lots of different types of therapy, different things suit different people. Give it a go, if it doesn't help try something or someone else.

I’ve been trying to get a therapist today (private not NHS) and the waiting lists are insane! Obviously so many people with issues after covid maybe!

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ProfYaffle · 05/04/2023 15:07

Yes, a lot are busy but keep trying. I was looking around just a few weeks ago, the first few therapists I contacted had massive waiting lists but I was lucky with another who just had a slot come free.

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James637 · 05/04/2023 19:19

ProfYaffle · 05/04/2023 15:07

Yes, a lot are busy but keep trying. I was looking around just a few weeks ago, the first few therapists I contacted had massive waiting lists but I was lucky with another who just had a slot come free.

Thanks! How are you finding it?

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James637 · 06/04/2023 14:22

Bump!!! Anyone else got any CBT experiences good or bad??!

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