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Am I right to feel extremely depressed and suicidal?

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summerfinn · 20/03/2023 13:53

I'm feeling at rock bottom. I met my current fiancé over 4 years ago. I already had 9 year that I was bringing up totally alone( his dad just disappeared when I told him I was pregnant. I was 21 it was horrific. I had the baby and my parents promised they would always help me out with him.

Things with my abuse mother got worse at home she began hitting and verbally abusing me. My father always stuck up for her. I was then told to leave the house one morning with my ten month old . I had no money no job no car and no where to go. I stayed with a friend until I got social housing.

After a couple of not great relationships I thought I hit the jackpot with my current partner, he was kind, generous with his money ( he seemed to have a lot of it due to his job) we went on a holiday to time and soon after I found myself pregnant.We were both extremely happy. He didn't have a house of his own as he moved back from abroad to his mothers house.

He said he would buy us this big house in a gorgeous area , as my house was only a two bed social house. He had said his mother was remortgaging her house( his sister and her 4 kids lived there with her) and half of the money of this house was going to be my partner's. Around 500 thousand.

This still hasn't come to light. To make matters worse we moved into my dads 4 bed rental as he had broken up with his partner and could afford rent alone. We also couldn't stay in a tiny two bed as my 3 year old had no bedroom and could share with teenage brother. My father was okay to live with for a week then it all went downhill. He rarely interacts with my youngest, doesn't help out with house work or anything. Said he rather eat alone and buy his own shopping , we where going to cook his meals and have him with his a dinner table. He has shouted at me when I question his grumpy attitude.

The worst part is we decided to ring the estate agents to find out if he even bothered putting us on the lease. Turned out he told them it was a six month thing and temporary us living there. The house was in such bad condition that we did up all the bedrooms, had to put in new floors ect , it cost us a fortune.

So now I'm in a position where I have to wait until April to see if the landlord will agree to us staying a couple of years . As estate agent won't ask until then. Also I'm living with my father a man who I came to help but continues been abusive and hasn't even apologised for not telling the estate agent the truth. I'm worried sick and angry that I'm in this position. I was promised the world by my partner. I don't even have a home. I don't have a job to get us out of this situation. I just want to die.

HopeMumsnet · 21/03/2023 12:16

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
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