Anyone else just feel tired of being an adult?

[Honkytonky12]

And just life in general? I'm in my early 40s, boring marriage, two ungrateful teenagers and a shitty job I hate. I am lucky in lots of ways I know as have a roof over my head and a husband who loves me but the truth is I don't know what my purpose in life is anymore or even what I want. I just feel so tired of just surviving, just getting by. It's just so tiring and some days I want to sleep and not wake up because I feel like I have nothing more to do or add.

Oh yes totally. No advice, just you're not alone 💐

Yup, it's massively overrated. It's hard to get yourself out of the rut sometimes.

Every day. It’s relentless.

Yes, completely. The monotonous routine, each day ending in deciding what to eat and then cleaning everything up ready for the next day to do it all again. I don't always feel like that but when I do it is very hard to get out of that way of thinking.

Some days I just want to do nothing and have someone bring me all my meals. No thinking or decision making needed.

Yes yes yes. Maybe you could pick just one thing and improve it? Like getting a job you enjoy more? I know I feel better when I focus on the small things that I do enjoy (and not getting stressed out on Twatter like I did today 😫).

Life just feels so hard and it just feels like it's going to get harder 😭

Yes! Not all the time though, but when I do I order a takeaway and slob for out for 2 days and then try to pull myself together.
You definitely aren't alone on this.

As another poster daid, try and focus on one area at a time. I have to remind myself that we only have one life and we are far better off than many others.

Oh my god yes. I am married and have 3 beautiful DC. One is disabled and it affects all of us enormously. Husband is exhausted working a ridiculously demanding job. We're getting older and more tired and I too am worried about the future as our disabled DC will always need care. I used to be so footloose and fancy free and now I just wake up, do 'all the shit' and fall into bed at the end of it. We can't even go on holiday, haven't done for years. Poor DC 🥺

Me
I feel like this
We have had a really shit 4 years
Can't shift weight
Can't keep house tidy
Can't get enough work
We are all healthy but I am tired all the fucking time

I empathise I raised it with my manager her reply was 'you have a job to which your paid for' you can't let external stresses impact you.

the culture of seeing an employee and not a human doesn't help

Yes, I hate it

Yes. All too relentless and now of an age when my decisions/ choices feel like they are coming home to roost. Where I live, who I married, how many children I have, how I spend my time, how I communicate. I feel trapped in a life of my own making but am aware I am lucky to have it and can't see how I can really change it now (apart from job).

I hear you

Yep. No future, living with parent, dept and no savings. All bullshit.

Yes.
I’m a late 20’s single parent of 3.
I have a part time day job, and a part time night job.
Navigating all the childcare stuff over the summer, constantly worrying about the financial side of that, along with the financial side of life in general.
The nights that the DCs do spend with their dad, I spend working until obscene hours of the morning, and more often than not will pick up a day shift in that job the next day just to bring in a bit more cash.
I’m also studying part time.
I feel like my brain is constantly ticking over, and there’s simply no time for anything remotely resembling “me time”.
As a result, I feel like a robot. I don’t really feel emotions at all. I’ve been through a shit time recently with my on/off DP, and haven’t even had a minute to sit and have a cry about it - not sure if that’s because there genuinely hasn’t been time, or if it’s because I’ve trained my brain to know that there’s simply no time for me to have a meltdown, so it just shuts off.

Yeah it sucks

Youth is wasted on the young etc

Me too. Our business couldn't trade during the pandemic for well over a year, my husband had a serious accident last year but made a good recovery and now we are getting back on track but I still feel either numb or panicked.

100% yes…..love and strength to you all xx

Yes!!!
Sometimes I feel we have been sold a lie.....
get a good job, get married, have children, then you work and look after house, hubby & children, whilst getting older and feeling tireder (if that's a word)

• when really what makes us happy (well me anyway) are the simple things,

like time to just stop and think & be me

vjg13 sympathies. This happened to us and I’m still panicked all the time. Even little things like buying a new blind frighten me, it’s not who I was.
pour hiuse is a tip that I’m trying to declutter but how do people ever decorate, buy blinds that work etc.
doesn’t help threat dd doesn’t understand why I’m not cool and trendy in nice clothes.
guilty about that now too!
I had good opportunities that I was too thick to see at the time. Bollocks.

I think this is behind the high levels of post covid early retirement that the government are freaking out about

I feel the same OP. A deep deep level of exhaustion. I cant summon up the energy/will do basic things like cook a meal anymore, everything is too much effort, i'm afraid of everything....
I power on purely for my wonderful DC (tho they are often a big source of stress/exhaustion too)
Youre not alone, wish i had answers...

Thank you @Whoops1 I definitely don't feel like who I was too. I feel like I'm a role in the family more than a person. We haven't been out of the UK on holiday for 4 years and I find the thought of that terrifying even if we could afford it!

Relentless. The best word to describe life as an adult. And as a child I thought it meant being able to do what I wanted. Hahhahhhhaha

Honestly - this is life. I am grandma age and can vouch for the fact that most of life is pretty mundane. I sometimes look back and wonder how many meals I cooked for all the family before they left home - day in, day out, over a couple of decades. And doing a difficult job as well - up in the morning, face the challenges of work every day.

But .... and I hope this does not sound trite ... there were moments of joy. And these moments are ones that I initiated: days out, holidays, games I played with them, singing etc. I also earmarked an evening a week for me to go out and pursue my hobby of singing. And simple things like sitting in the garden or spending half an hour reading a book were important.

Life is pretty bloody pointless when you analyse it, but it is what we make it, and as I creep towards pensions etc. I am aware that I am more than half way through and life feels more precious.

I think we make our own joy - often in the face of sadness (my OH died) and mundanity. It is our choice - joy does not just happen.

If you cannot see any moments of joy, then maybe you are clinically depressed and need to seek some support for this.