I feel awful writing this. Truely awful but I need to know if anyone else gets like this. I’m a single mum to a boy 9, and a baby girl (<year). No input in anyway from fathers.
I can’t stand my son at the moment. He’s 9. He argues with me constantly about everything. Any little thing he’ll argue with me about. He doesn’t do as I say, he just will blatantly not listen, I’ll tell him to stop doing it and he’ll either carry on or do it again straight after. He will literally ruin every outing we have to the point I don’t want to go anywhere with him or take him anywhere with anyone because he is so embarrassing and exhausting to be around. He’ll constantly talk over people, act like an idiot or a child a lot younger than he is, he will constantly ask to be bought stuff. Obviously I’m tired from the baby she doesn’t sleep longer than an hour and a half at a time and is BF but tbh this has been going on longer than she’s been here. I just now completely resent him. I don’t want to cuddle him, I don’t want him touching me which is obviously awful because I want him to know he is loved but I just cannot stand him and his behaviour, his complete lack of respect for adults and the impact he is having on my life. I’ve spoken to the school about it and he is better at school but they don’t offer to help at home. I’m at a loss of what to do. I don’t get support from family and it’s really difficult to make friends with him the way he is. I have a few friends but they don’t want to be around him all the time because he’s such hard work. I have had a couple of relationships in his lifespan, both have failed after the guys meeting him and spending time. One of them straight forward said that it was because of him he is leaving. He’s currently being assessed for high functioning autism and adhd and I know he has traits but I also know that a majority of it is just him being a sh*t. Im at a loss of what to do. Consequences to his actions do not work. Nothing works. I’m considering giving him up because I just can’t cope with it. What do I do?!