Fed up of my appearance

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I have recently posted onto Mumsnet forum regarding pregnancy but I think it was the wrong forum 🤦 When I was younger I used to get bullied a lot for how I looked and this went into employment too. I'm a girl and people used to mistake me for a man by calling me sir or mate or a child actually asked if I was a boy or girl. This has really affected me and sometimes I can forget it and other times something triggers it like a shopkeeper calling me sir again. I am absolutely fed up of feeling like this. I can't afford plastic surgery to change myself so I guess it's something I'll have to live with. I'm just so upset all the time. I'll post a few pics but I do t bother wearing make up anymore or doing my hair, I don't see the point. One of the pictures was on a walk when two girls said "it's a man".😭

OP you have beautiful feminine soft skin, lovely smile and hair. Ive no idea where those bloody stupid comments from others came from x

I'm not saying this to kind, I'm simply telling the truth. You look lovely! Not at all masculine, just lovely.

I think you look absolutely beautiful
And natural. You also seem very at peace with yourself, or do I mean content. Either way you look gorgeous.

Op you look lovely!

I think this may say more about other people than you... your photos are clearly of a woman! Ok, so you're a bit tired and not polished in these - but who of us are with small kids?

I would advise you not to give these crazy comments a moment more of your headspace. I'm sure you've got other stuff to be thinking about, and it's clearly nonsense.

You’re actually a naturally pretty girl OP, there’s nothing masculine about you and it’s probably your insecurities at play here.

I'm so sorry you have been treated in such a cruel way. Is there any way those people could have been jealous of you? You are very pretty, you have beautiful eyes

You have such a pretty face and definitely don't look like a man to me X Also I'd give anything for lovely full lips like yours ❤ xx

Forget cosmetic surgery and spend some of the money on therapy, because clearly there's something going on that you need the help of a therapist to sort out.

OP in the absolute nicest and kindest possible way, I think maybe you are attributing meanings to snippets of conversation that aren’t really there.

I had similar when I was very low and ill after DS2.

There’s no way anyone would mistake you for a man. You are a very pretty and feminine woman.

I think your poor mental health is making you give negative comments more headspace than they deserve.

How you doing since having your baby? Having children can be very hard mentally. I remember having a complete and utter identity crisis after having children. I do have other issues that cause me to be over critical of my appearance too, but after having kids I focused totally on my appearance as the cause of all my problems. When really I was exhausted, didn't know where I fitted in the world anymore, didn't know what I was doing as a parent and didn't know how to cope with my new life.

I know it's easy to say, but I understand how you're feeling and would recommend getting some counselling.

Jesus Christ OP I wish I had your teeth and skin, there's no way I'd be putting close up shots like that of me on the internet it would make people's eyes bleed! You look amazing even on no sleep but I don't think you'll believe us no matter what we say. I think you need some counselling and help with your MH.

Er.. What? I was preparing myself to possibly have to tell a little white lie to make you feel better, but you're obviously a woman... You look lovely.
It's just makeup for me that makes me look more 'feminine' or whatever. Most people, including you, me, men, women just look kinda alike really.. Everything else is hair, makeup, clothes, accessories etc.
You look great as you are though.

Are you sure they were talking about you?You're wayyyy more feminine looking than me and nobody has ever called me a man 😕

As others have said, you could not look less masculine if you tried and you look absolutely lovely! Suspect you are not able to believe us, though, and I would (kindly) recommend that you speak to a doctor as a matter of urgency. It’s possible you are having paranoid or delusional thoughts that you believe to be true, and you really sound like you could do with some help. 💐