Trigger warning - Attempted suicide Train station

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Sorry, I don't know if this is the place but I know it is for traffic - MNHQ, please feel free to move.

Without any details, I saved a life in this situation, physically and emotionally, totally by chance. I am feeling a range of emotions and I am not sure how to feel.

Sorry guys - this was meant to be in AIBU. Please ignore.

Hey, you can report your own post and ask for it to be moved to another board?

Have done. Thanks.

How are you feeling OP?
That sounds like a very powerful experience - frightening too.

Numb. Very calm, very chilled, as I was at the time. Thanks @LiesDoNotBecomeUs

Do you know anything about the person op? I’ve been the person trying to jump in front of a train. Your action may have made a difference to how they feel about themselves. A complete stranger trying to save you when you feel so worthless that you want to die can change your whole life

Depending on the details, you may also have saved a train driver from a trauma that might have meant they could never face driving a train again.

Of course it will have set your nervous system jangling. Hope you are recovery. And thanks for what you did

Main thing now is to look after yourself as there is a possibility of delayed shock, so try not to bottle things up

I don't think there's any right or wrong way for you to feel after something like that!
Good thing you were there at the right time, and able to do whatever it is you did, for sure.

Are you ok, take it easy you're no doubt in a bit of shock but well done x

No.
I asked him if he was OK as he was acting oddly and he told me what he was planning to do, calm as day.
I didn't leave him until he was in the hands of someone else which was well over an hour later due to the platform location.

three train drivers, before someone else arrived.

Thank you.

I feel OK. very calm and very chilled. Is that shock? Or is it just renewed perspective (as I have been in a place in life , years ago, as we all have where I thought that was the solution and I have very quickly realised now the impact of that)

Woah. Thank you and well done. I'm interested to see what odd signs you noticed and how you approached the troubled person in case I ever find myself in that situation. I'm forever asking strangers if they're ok if looking upset.

Today I asked a kid crouching down by a tree with dog by their side and head in hands if they were ok. They were just looking at TikTok between their legs as it was bright. We had a nice chat about lockdown pups and going to the seaside with them.

Good for you. Agree, just be kind to yourself. It can be hard to face how fragile life is and how people in absolute desperation walk amongst us every day.

What I found helpful was framing it as a "what if?" - if I hadn't been there she'd definitely have died and that would have been a tragedy. As it was her path crossing with mine got her help. I like to think that it all worked out, maybe it did.

Thank you for what you did today.

I honestly dont know. We were still on the train at this point. Something just propelled me to ask him if he knew where he was going. I'd never be able to explain it.

Well done you.

Well done and thank you OP!

Go gently on yourself. Be prepared that it might hit you at some point. Your probably still in shock. Have you told anyone in real life?

I expect you’re in shock. You must be feeling the stirrings of something or you wouldn’t have posted. Not surprising, especially if you’ve been suicidal in the past yourself. You did something good, try to concentrate on that.

Yeah.

I was waiting for the emotion to hit and it didn't.

Thank you.

I am glad you were there just when he needed you!

if you haven’t anyone to talk to about this yourself and need to- do call the Samaritans.

We listen to people is distress but always ‘download’ (upload?) to a leader afterwards. It can take a while to process what happened and talking helps.

if you call to work through this- You will be talking to people who understand your situation!

First of all, that's amazing that you have time and compassion for another human being. Believe it or not, some people wouldn't stop, so absolutely brilliant you did. I wouldn't say it was exactly similar, but I witnessed a 'successful' stranger suicide and for days I had continuous flashbacks, even a few years later still have to stop myself dwelling on it. You will certainly get flashbacks & replay it over and over, if anything like me. Talk to people. Take it slowly. Be proud of yourself. Let it encompass your brain for a while to give you chance to come to terms with it, then try to let it go. Well done!

Thank you so much guys. I'm very calm a d chilled but feel so odd.

In my case , he sat down in front of me. He was fidgety, nervous, drinking and kept asking about the time. Just something about it.

I bet his dm wished she could hug you right now. My ds was talked down from a bridge a few years ago. By his db. What a night..
Thanks from us mams op.

Yes it’s shock. Really well done. You’re a hero.
Look after yourself, you’ll be processing some intense emotions x