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Tips as I think my mood may crash

26 replies

Joblosspain · 11/12/2021 23:12

Currently with family but will be spending a week on my own before coming back for holidays. I have depression generally OK, but can crash with suicidal thoughts that are horrible to experience, though luckily pretty safe.
I’ve found out likely to be redundant soon.

WFH from Monday though holiday to next year and will mean staying with relatives rather than independent. (For a number of reasons including MH couldn’t live alone if purely WFH.)

I feel numb atm but worried I’m going to crash at some point probably in the next week. I need the week away - need emotional space and independence.

Any tips on keeping my mood stable or if things begin to lower. No one I can talk to irl.

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Joblosspain · 11/12/2021 23:13

Forgot to says thanks in advance. Sorry if I drip feed anything.

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RodneyIsDave · 12/12/2021 11:14

Speak to your Dr and tell them how your feeling and why. If your on medication keep taking them as prescribed.

TotheletterofthelawTHELETTER · 12/12/2021 11:21

As above, keep making sure you take your medication.
Get outside as much as you can, even if you hate it and only last 10 minutes it will help.
Keep hydrated. Set reminders on your phone to remind you to have a drink and eat something.
Do a shop and get foods you like that are easy to prepare.
Go easy on yourself, it sounds like you’re going through a lot Flowers

MistySkiesAfterRain · 12/12/2021 15:04

Will you be completely alone ? I find that hard for a week. I break it up by spending time in cafes - could you go to a cafe mid week? Lots of people go alone these days with their devices or newspaper. It really helps my mood. Bw.

Joblosspain · 12/12/2021 15:27

Thanks
I don’t need to isolate so will go to cafe a couple of times. I think I need to be alone to feel the feelings. Family want to know I’m ok. I moved for work and it means independence so I need that week before Christmas and then wfh. I will go to cafes, in fact that freedom is one thing I’ll miss moving back with family. I’ll also frequent MN, just just here but some of the happier/funny/cat threads (under different name).

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Joblosspain · 13/12/2021 09:33

Hi
Please can I have a handhold
At work, though now wfh and struggling. On a helpline and no one on yet. Getting something delivered in next few minutes and I need to hold things together for that. After that I fear I may not do well.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 13/12/2021 09:37

Keep going. Can you get a coffee, or drink of choice. One hour at a time?
Flowers

Joblosspain · 13/12/2021 09:48

Good idea, means I’be already done one hour already which feels good. Normally have tea but just don’t seem to be motivating myself.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 13/12/2021 12:06

Did your delivery come? How are you now?

Joblosspain · 13/12/2021 13:06

Making it through, I don’t feel I can stop for lunch or the sadness comes in. Sad

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 13/12/2021 20:41

Did you manage Job?

TotheletterofthelawTHELETTER · 13/12/2021 21:28

Sorry to hear today was so tough.
Hope your delivery came.
Tomorrow is a new day, like a pp said just hour by hour when it’s this tough. Don’t think you’ve got to get through day or week just hour by hour is enough

Joblosspain · 14/12/2021 09:47

Thanks all
Another hour by hour day today. Added joy that there isn’t as much work in my section today. I wish so much this was over even if it was unemployment. I’m actually entering TUPE but my prospects for success at redundancy stage aren’t good.

I’m counting blessings as well.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 14/12/2021 10:32

On that subject, Job, I have a notebook I use as a gratitude diary, when I remember. It sounds twee, but it does actually help. I follow an original blog, called Three Beautiful Things that I find helpful. I'll see if I can link to it.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 14/12/2021 10:48

here you go

Joblosspain · 14/12/2021 11:26

Thanks @SpongeBobJudgeyPants - love the name.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 14/12/2021 11:34

Thanks :)

Joblosspain · 15/12/2021 00:09

Another day (just) and another fine mess. This evening collected what I thought was my repeat prescription, opened it and it seems to be extras from last month.

So need to go back tomorrow and will be late for work. I actually need the prescription from tomorrow afternoon- epilepsy and depression stuff so not things I can just skip for a day (I also take vitamins would be ok if it was that).

Worried that I won’t get what I need. I hate myself so much.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 15/12/2021 08:16

That's a nuisance. Can you ring the pharmacy ahead, to potentially sort out any issues before you get there? Make it quicker?

Joblosspain · 15/12/2021 09:51

Rang this morning and luckily they do have it. I’ll check before I leave this lunch time Smile

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 15/12/2021 14:09

Yes. Meds can be a pain. I changed from a small chemist, where they always cocked it up, to a larger chain. They have it on repeat, and I haven't had a problem with them. You can have meds posted to you, but I'm not sure I would 100% trust the post.

Joblosspain · 15/12/2021 15:08

I’ve tried large and small and just watch like a hawk for wrong dosages of number of tablets.

I’m sure they will be very busy with vaccines as well at the moment but it is a long term issue.

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 15/12/2021 16:57

I minimise the hassle as much as possible by getting tablets about a week before I need them, which gives me some wiggle room, if I can't go till later, or they bodge it. I have found through forgetting to take tablets sometimes, I have inadvertently given myself a longer time before I have to have them. Not suggesting you do this, but I have found this few days wiggle room takes some of the pressure off.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 15/12/2021 18:04

I minimise the hassle as much as possible by getting tablets about a week before I need them, which gives me some wiggle room, if I can't go till later, or they bodge it. I have found through forgetting to take tablets sometimes, I have inadvertently given myself a longer time before I have to have them. Not suggesting you do this, but I have found this few days wiggle room takes some of the pressure off.

Joblosspain · 15/12/2021 19:58

I have tried to, then they messed up the days so it became last minute again.

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