Private adult adhd diagnosis?

[Bobbinsbop]

I strongly feel I have adhd. I was referred through the go I had 2 appointments and the consultant was awful he was extremely rude and made me feel like a liar. I was supposed to have a 3rd appointment which I never received and I couldn’t face chasing it up.
I’m going to pay privately for an assessment as I can’t face going through it again with him. I know I could request another consultant but I’d rather just pay and get it done quicker.
Can anyone recommend who to use? I’ve seen some do it all online but are these as recognised as face to face ones.
Thanks

I used Clinical Partners. V efficient. Virtual interview 2 hours nice woman. About 650 quid.

I am wondering about getting my adult son assessed for ADHD but then I wonder is there any point. He needs support on a daily basis. He does work but doesnt earn enough to buy his own home. Maybe he could get social housing if he has it?

@SophieHMS

I used Clinical Partners. V efficient. Virtual interview 2 hours nice woman. About 650 quid.

Did you opt to try meds? If so how much was your titration?

@Yespresh

I am wondering about getting my adult son assessed for ADHD but then I wonder is there any point. He needs support on a daily basis. He does work but doesnt earn enough to buy his own home. Maybe he could get social housing if he has it?

He could access medication if he was diagnosed. That should help with symptoms and therefore help him manage his life better.

Out of interest
What would the upshot be if you were diagnosed?

Would you receive any treatment on the nhs? Medication?

Or is an adult diagnosis more about knowing to you have it?

Genuine question

If a child is diagnosed as being adhd then the parent entitled to disability living allowance
But not for an adult

And would only get if your child was diagnosed as being severe enough

@Marni83 Both DLA and the working age disability PIP are awarded based on care and mobility needs, not diagnosis.

I would hopefully get medication - ideally I’d eventually do shared care and get it on the nhs but would pay if I had too.
But also just knowing what is going on and having a definite answer.

Can recommend psymplicity.com/specialist/dr-nishi-yarger/

Thank you I’ll have a look at them.

[quote RavingAnnie]@Marni83 Both DLA and the working age disability PIP are awarded based on care and mobility needs, not diagnosis. [/quote]
Agreed
But if so serious to warrant
Then I can’t understand why a diagnosis hasn’t been sought before now.

@Marni83

Out of interest What would the upshot be if you were diagnosed?

Would you receive any treatment on the nhs? Medication?

Or is an adult diagnosis more about knowing to you have it?

Genuine question

I also wondered this? Do you want the diagnosis as a gateway to recivec services, to enable you to receive benefits, or just for your own curiosity.....again....this is a genuine question

Even for the parent of a child with adhd
You have to meet criteria for DLA
And it’s not that the child meet “expected” needs for adhd but much more

@Marni83

If a child is diagnosed as being adhd then the parent entitled to disability living allowance But not for an adult

The parent may take receipt of the DLA but the DLA award is for the child NOT the parents

Yes. Of course. Just like child benefit is for the child and not the parent!

My point is
DLA is given in muted circumstances when a child is involved
The op is hoping for financial assistance, possibly housing, with a diagnosis.
This will not be the case unless she fits the criteria for DLA.
Have you applied in the past op?

It’s not for DLA or any benefits. I just can’t go on like this.

When you say the consultant was awful
What was his speciality
Any what made you think that

Super critter- did psymplicity offer shared care after?

@Marni83 the op didn't say she wanted a dx for financial or housing reasons

A dx gets you access to medication which is the first line treatment for ADHD. A formal dx can also lift a lot of the shame and depression that adhd sufferers live with.

@Bobbinsbop I'm sorry it went so badly with first consultant. I'd recommend looking at the ADHD board on Reddit for private recommendations. Most posters are American, but a bit of a trawl will find you British contributors. Good luck. Meds changed my life. I just can't believe just how long I had lived like I used to.

My mistake

Whereabouts in the country are you @Bobbinsbop ? We used a brilliant clinic in Oxford

When you say consultant was e a psychiatrist because having been through the assessment I only had one hour meeting where we went through the questionnaire and after he gave me a prescription to start on meds

OP, I'm late 50s and have spent most of my life feeling profoundly lonely, "alien" and incompetent. This leads to a lot of shame and self hatred. I had 30 years of therapy - still couldn't keep my house clean, manage what came out of my mouth, stay engaged with previously passionate interests, or find peace in my mind. I have been on ADs for years he last 30 years too. Self medicating with booze, fags, sex, you name it ...

And I owned and ran a business so successful I retired at 52 on shitloads. I have two lovely now adult DC. I have been published, been an " expert" on TV several times. I'm externally l one of life's lucky bastards.

But never felt peace or joy for more than half an hour.

A life like that and you do wonder what the fuck is going on and who you really are. This apparently highly successful woman, or that woman weeping and imploding because she's sooooo boooorrrreeeed, like a 13 year old?

After my diagnosis I wept and wept with relief that there is a reason for how I am. I am not someone who has "failed" at therapy etc

Haven't tried medication yet - it's been three months since diagnosis and I'm just working through the emotions from that discovery

Sophie you sound so like me - I've just name changed and am about to start my own thread on an issue that. I have no diagnosis but it all just fits me I need to sort now but has overwhelmed me and don't want the usual MN get a grip FFS comments.

I'm 57, great at my job, intelligent yet would die of embarrassment if any of my friends saw my bedroom. I just can't do the stuff other people can. One reason I name changed is my (adultish) children know my old name and laugh at it. Don't want them to see the emotionally messy me - I'm even blubbing writing this!