Private adult adhd diagnosis?

[Bobbinsbop]

I strongly feel I have adhd. I was referred through the go I had 2 appointments and the consultant was awful he was extremely rude and made me feel like a liar. I was supposed to have a 3rd appointment which I never received and I couldn’t face chasing it up.
I’m going to pay privately for an assessment as I can’t face going through it again with him. I know I could request another consultant but I’d rather just pay and get it done quicker.
Can anyone recommend who to use? I’ve seen some do it all online but are these as recognised as face to face ones.
Thanks

Can I ask you what your "symptoms " are if that's not a rude thing or way to ask.

My teen possibly has it, we are still waiting on cahms, but the more I research, the more I think I have some traits and I don't want to overshadow my sons journey but it would make a lot of sense to me.

@SnipSnipMrBurgess

Can I ask you what your "symptoms " are if that's not a rude thing or way to ask.

My teen possibly has it, we are still waiting on cahms, but the more I research, the more I think I have some traits and I don't want to overshadow my sons journey but it would make a lot of sense to me.

ADHD can be genetic so it makes sense that you might have it. I would look up adhd in women as it presents slightly differently for a lot of women. It’s more inattentive than hyperactive usually. That’s why it’s under diagnosed girls, it’s not picked up in school because we’re seen as ‘day dreamers’ who need to apply ourselves more. Rather than disruptive ness or overt distractions. It can show up as struggling to keep on top of admin like finances or housework. Feeling like you always have to ‘cope’ in a way that other people don’t seem to. Like the day to day is already enough and if someone puts one more thing (even if it’s small) on your plate it will all come crashing down. For me I have anxiety that pushes me through it all because I will hyper focus and struggle through instead. In a social situation I can get distracted very easily, I find it difficult to get through a full story without diverting and forgetting where I started. Noises are distracting too, I can’t think straight, if an alarm goes off I will have completely lost track of everything. I am also messy, but try very hard not to be, it still isn’t working 😅

@SophieHMS

OP, I'm late 50s and have spent most of my life feeling profoundly lonely, "alien" and incompetent. This leads to a lot of shame and self hatred. I had 30 years of therapy - still couldn't keep my house clean, manage what came out of my mouth, stay engaged with previously passionate interests, or find peace in my mind. I have been on ADs for years he last 30 years too. Self medicating with booze, fags, sex, you name it ...

And I owned and ran a business so successful I retired at 52 on shitloads. I have two lovely now adult DC. I have been published, been an " expert" on TV several times. I'm externally l one of life's lucky bastards.

But never felt peace or joy for more than half an hour.

A life like that and you do wonder what the fuck is going on and who you really are. This apparently highly successful woman, or that woman weeping and imploding because she's sooooo boooorrrreeeed, like a 13 year old?

After my diagnosis I wept and wept with relief that there is a reason for how I am. I am not someone who has "failed" at therapy etc

Haven't tried medication yet - it's been three months since diagnosis and I'm just working through the emotions from that discovery

Did you write about this in the Times?

SnipSnipMrBurgess
Can I ask you what your "symptoms " are if that's not a rude thing or way to ask

Failing at life.

Even small tasks feel like someone has asked you to climb Everest with one hand and leg tied behind your back

@Bythemillpond

SnipSnipMrBurgess Can I ask you what your "symptoms " are if that's not a rude thing or way to ask

Failing at life.

Even small tasks feel like someone has asked you to climb Everest with one hand and leg tied behind your back

Well I def hear that. I always feel like I stepped out once and missed the lesson on how to be a functioning adult. I always feel wrong footed and a bit behind.

@Marni83 no I did not!

I think it probably sounds similar as a lot of aspects of ADHD is the same as everyone else with ADHD has

I watched a YouTube video of a young woman from the US who was talking about her childhood with ADHD.

In spite of living 1000s of miles away and having supportive parents to help her what she described as her childhood was describing mine. Even down to certain details.

At this point I didn’t really believe I could possibly be ADHD I had always thought that my struggles were because of who I was and other people seemed to always choose the right path to take, make the right decisions
Seemed to get stuff done even if it was just little things.

But suddenly I was faced with someone who had made all same decisions I had made but it wasn’t because they were lazy or stupid or hadn’t got a family to guide them.
It was purely down to ADHD.

I look back on my life and think what a mess.
What if I had been diagnosed 10 or 20 or 30 or even 40 years ago what would my life look like now?

Please be very careful who you choose to do your diagnosis. My son has asd and adhd. We went through many consultants and some of them caused more damage than good. Please do your research on who o you decide to go to before wasting your time and money.