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Help45 · 12/03/2021 09:28

I’m looking for help I posted on a old thread that was similar to my issue last night as I’m new to all of this.....I’ve got myself in bother and I’m going out of my head with worry..I’m being investigated for tax credit fraud and yes I have done wrong I know that but I’m feeling like my only way out is too end it all and spare my family and partner who all knew nothing the embarrassment that I’ve caused....my stomach is in knots I can’t afford a solicitor and I’m petrified I will go to prison or end up in court where everyone will find out about me I can’t bare that for my kids or family..I honestly feel ending it is the only option...help please

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Devlesko · 15/03/2021 15:09

Tax credit do prosecute, my dsis got 18 months, despite having a baby in ICU and her ex pressurising her to make the claim.
I'm sorry but you need to prepare yourself for this happening.
It was to make an example of her, and at present HMRC are trying to claw money back for the gov, you won't be the only one.
I think it depends on how much you received over what you should have, ito fines/ custodial sentence.

StellaDendrite · 15/03/2021 15:16

I don’t know whether it would help or not but I wouldn’t refer to it as a ‘silly mistake’ or even a ‘mistake’ to your partner. I would see that as you trying to minimise it which I don’t think is your intention. I think you really need to ‘own’ it. It was something that involved a lot of money and that was carried out over a long period. It was a decision that you made not a spur of the moment lapse of morals. It was a deliberate act that you now deeply regret.
Having said that I don’t think you should hate yourself or beat yourself up over this forever more, that would be pointless. The main thing is is that you have fully accepted what you did, that you haven’t made excuses for what you did and that you are going to pay it all back. I honestly have a lot of respect for you for that.

You need to work towards trying to compartmentalise this. You need to acknowledge that you’ve done something wrong (which you have) but you also need to acknowledge that you are a decent person otherwise (I’m assuming you are because you are so sorry for what you have done!)

I think it might be useful to see a counsellor to help you get your mind around this. It won’t do you or anyone else any good if you let it ruin how you feel about yourself.

TheQueef · 15/03/2021 15:26

Good update 45 you've done the hardest part, well done Brew

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Help45 · 15/03/2021 17:01

@Devlesko,I have had my interview today my claim been closed and I have to pay overpayment back,I hope you sister is ok terrible to make a example of someone.

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Help45 · 15/03/2021 17:47

@TheQueef..thank you so much.

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Newnamefor2021 · 15/03/2021 18:51

Glad it's done. Hope they are offering a sensible payment plan? Are you feeling any better?

CupoTeap · 15/03/2021 19:01

Well done hopefully that's the hardest bit over with.

Please, please don't get carried away offering to pay more than you can. It's better to maintain than get yourself in to trouble with it.

Changemaname1 · 15/03/2021 19:11

Great update OP !! Glad that it went well now try relax and eat something to!! smile]

Lentillover1900 · 25/03/2021 21:18

Any update following the letter op?

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