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Suicidal all the time

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NooNooHead1981 · 01/12/2020 23:23

I have various health issues, some of which have become worse since having my third baby 7 months ago.

Involuntary neurological movement disorder, narrow angle glaucoma, gum disease, constant anxiety about everything. I am probably depressed too. I know that none of these things are life limiting or threatening but they are draining me of the sheer enjoyment of anything in life. I feel in constant pain.

I am physically, mentally and emotionally tired of everything but can't leave my 3 beautiful children.

I am so scared and feel so alone.

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ChangedMyNameToday · 02/12/2020 06:29

I'm sorry you're feeling like that, NoonooHead1981. Please look after yourself and make sure you get in touch with your doctor, or even a and e, or the samaritans , if you feel ever feel worse than normally at risk.

It might be good to contact the doctor, anyway, and tell them how you're feeling- doctors are supposed to be seeing people when necessary, now, it might be worth trying anti depressenants, for a bit, even. With your youngest so little, it could be worth looking at if you could have post natal depression, maybe.

You're having to deal with a lot of things at the moment, as well as the situation with everything being different , and a bit difficult with coronavirus, has got a lot of people down, also it is a depressing time of year, anyway, which might not be helping at the moment . So, really -it's not surprising you're not feeling great, at all.

keep reminding your self, of how well you are doing, looking after three children, and they will get easier to look after,as they get older, as well, so keep remembering, you are moving towards things being easier, on the childcare front , as well, all the time- because it does get easier, as they get older.

Try to look after yourself as much as you can, watch nice things on tv , or listen to music,or go for a walk- don't worry to much about house work etc, and try to make sure you're eating and sleeping enough.

It might be good, when you can, to try to go back to the drs, or dentist etc, to get some reassurance or advice, with your other medical conditions, but be nice to yourself, if it takes a while to get it done- you can only do so much at a time-and looking after three children is a lot!

I hope you feel better soon anyway, please look after yourself, and if at all feel at any immediate risk, please contact someone who can help-like your doctor-or even a relative or someone who might be able to help- I hope things get better for you , Noonoohead, look after yourself Flowers x

NooNooHead1981 · 02/12/2020 09:50

Thank you .. I cant do this. Feel like every minute is a struggle xx

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MichaelMumsnet · 02/12/2020 11:21

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
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Flowers OP

ChangedMyNameToday · 02/12/2020 16:54

Poor Noonoohead1981, I am sorry, Flowers and I do hope things get better, try and and get through one day at a time, and be as nice to yourself as possible.
Try to think what you would say to a friend, in the same situation- you would be saying to think of how well they were doing and saying to be nice to themselves , so- you have to try to say it to yourself. If you had a friend, with three children, looking after them at the same time as coping with difficult medical conditions- you would really admire them,wouldn't you? You would think they were an amazing, brave person- and you would tell them that- so don't forget to tell it to yourself!
I would think about getting in touch with your doctor, I know doctors can be a bit varied,in how good they are with somethings, so if you get one that's not helpful enough, you might need to get back to them, but I would try to get some help from them, because you shouldn't have to be feeling like you are , without some proper help and support. I do hope things get better soon, Flowers xx

NooNooHead1981 · 02/12/2020 19:20

Thank you so much. I hate everything right now. I have excess saliva, sore gums, and have laser eye surgery next week which I am dreading.

I know that I am trying my best but I struggle literally to get out of bed and look forward to when I can go to sleep for respite

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Chrimboo · 02/12/2020 19:22

How are you this evening, op?
You’ve had some good advice already but just wanted to emphasise and add my support too. I also have narrow angle glaucoma (it’s a bit scary isn’t it? And those checks at the eye hospital where they stick the lens on to your eye ball aren’t pleasant are they?).
I regularly get suicidal ideation and I have to keep reminding myself that it will pass as it really does.
It does sound like you need far more support though, this probably should start with your gp though. What do you think? Do you feel able to phone them tomorrow (or email them now)?
Here to listen.

Chrimboo · 02/12/2020 19:23

(Crossed posts!)

randomer · 02/12/2020 19:23

Whats you support like with the children?

piddocktrumperiness · 02/12/2020 19:26

I'm here to listen too OP. I am so sorry and really hope you get better. I do hope you have managed to contact your gp

NooNooHead1981 · 02/12/2020 19:40

Thank you all. My best friend told me she hasn't had the energy to speak to me about my problems recently

I can't distract from the awful pain and excess saliva in my mouth. My involuntary tongue and mouth movements have got worse too since having my baby.

I am petrified I will react to the eye drops at my laser surgery next week and it will make my movement disorder worse.

I don't know what to do. I am upping my oral hygiene but it makes no difference.

I feel so sad. My husband works full time from home and will help with childcare but it is still hard.

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NooNooHead1981 · 02/12/2020 22:45

Anyone up?

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TeaBanditTeej · 02/12/2020 22:56

@NooNooHead1981

Anyone up?
I am. How are you feeling? Xx
NooNooHead1981 · 02/12/2020 23:29

Sad... Need respite from my sensitive teeth...tried a new colgate toothpaste and it set off my involuntary jaw chewing movement.

Feel like I am constantly fighting something with no respite

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PurpleFrames · 02/12/2020 23:54

That's a bit hurtful for a best friend to say, or maybe I took it the wrong way. How do you feel about it?

Congratulations on your new baby but very sorry to hear about your health problems. Does having a name for the conditions help? I can be an avid googler which

PurpleFrames · 02/12/2020 23:55

Oops sorry posted too soon!

Do you have plans for the week? I might try and tackle Debenhams sale tomorrow

NooNooHead1981 · 02/12/2020 23:57

I have a neurological involuntary movement disorder called tardive dyskinesia, caused by certain types of medication. I also have narrow angle glaucoma.
Sad

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NooNooHead1981 · 02/12/2020 23:58

No plans really. I can't distract from the horrible excess saliva and sensitive teeth. That sounds so pathetic

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BathshebaWasOnTheRoof · 03/12/2020 00:05

You poor thing, you’ve got a lot going on.

Are you getting seen about your gum disease? I can recommend some products that have worked for me - Gengigel mouth rinse and Gengigel Gel.

Some toothpastes can be irritants especially whitening ones.

BathshebaWasOnTheRoof · 03/12/2020 00:07

You could try a plain Sensodyne and rub it on the gums if you haven’t tried that.

ReclaimingTheKaren · 03/12/2020 07:44

I wondered from your OP if it was TD from previous meds, and if that means you've had treatment for MH issues in the past?

bearlyactive · 03/12/2020 07:52

@ReclaimingTheKaren

I wondered from your OP if it was TD from previous meds, and if that means you've had treatment for MH issues in the past?
Exactly what I was going to say. If so, is it possible for you to change your meds? TD is one of the most common reasons why people change medication.
NooNooHead1981 · 03/12/2020 08:35

Meds were given off label for insomnia and anxiety after a breakdown following a head injury in 2015...it was a typical antipsychotic prescribed only for a week. Not been on any since

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NooNooHead1981 · 03/12/2020 08:56

Scared I have bone loss too
Don't want xrays in case they exacerbate my td

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ReclaimingTheKaren · 03/12/2020 09:04

Goodness, you were unlucky to develop TD so quickly. But x-rays don't exacerbate TD.

NooNooHead1981 · 03/12/2020 09:19

God knows... Everything seems to exacerbate my TD...even new colgate toothpaste which I reacted to last night made my jaw movement worse...

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