Ending therapy

[nothingnessandeverything]

Hi, I just ended with my therapist via text - because I felt that I had become too attached and therefore wasn't actually dealing with anything I had initially gone to her for. I didn't tell her that was the reason for ending it.

She was cool about it. But I thought I would feel much better after shutting it down but now I just feel so sad and really regret doing that.

Can anyone else who has experienced this please tell me how long it took for you to feel better? It feels like a real breakup even though the relationship was completely one sided.

Totally regret even ever starting therapy. I feel worse than I did before.

HI OP! Great news and so glad you’ve found a way through. Sounds like a different therapist really helped you gain the perspective you needrd.

Thank you 😊

The new therapist thinks this is possibly linked to my relationship with my mother (who is a lovely person btw but there are some issues which I have never addressed) and while it does seem like a massive cliche (relating my issues to my attachment with my mother), a lot of it makes sense to me.

It was a worthwhile experience seeing him.

I suppose the question is what was so frightening about feeling this love for and dependence on your therapist that you felt you had to end the relationship with her.

PS not expecting you to actually answer that here - its probably about a three year project to work that one out ....

@Bumpsadaisie

I suppose the question is what was so frightening about feeling this love for and dependence on your therapist that you felt you had to end the relationship with her.

PS not expecting you to actually answer that here - its probably about a three year project to work that one out ....

I knooow. One of the craziest things about this whole situation is it has revealed a lot of other things that I need to confront and deal with that I honestly had never thought twice about. The whole experience has been very revealing. I'll update you in three years 🤣

Hi, late to this party but just to say I also found this thread really helpful! I've got a great therapist at the moment and once had a bit of a meltdown at her because I was stressed at the idea of therapy stopping (even though no-one had suggested that..) because I felt quite dependent on it . So kind of nice to know its not just me that has a slight fear about losing their therapist lol! Hope you manage to work things out with yours OP.

@Hakunamatata91 I'm so pleased you found this thread helpful! I was worried it was a bit self absorbed but honestly I'm so interested to hear other similar experiences. It is nice to feel like you're not the only one. It's hard feeling so dependent on someone that you know you have no control over keeping in your life. I hope things continue to go well for you with yours!