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How often do you think of suicide?

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Mermaidwithoutacause · 11/10/2020 16:04

I was talking to a friend about how someone we knew had sadly tried to kill themselves and she said it had never crossed her mind once, in her entire life to do so, even in really difficult times.

I think about it a lot. I assumed everyone did. I know how. I know what preparations I’d make. It’s often in my mind.

Is this not the norm? I’m genuinely asking here. I assumed everyone gave this some thought.

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IseeIsee · 11/10/2020 16:38

Never. I hope this thread is useful for you OP and that you seek some help. I hope it is also useful for you to see that others do think of it at times.

SwampyArmpits · 11/10/2020 16:38

Not every day, but most.

burglarbettybaby · 11/10/2020 16:38

Sorry you feel this way. I'm in my 40s and only seriously felt that way once or twice. I also remember feeling that way at 12 or 13. I am in a good place qt the moment and no one would know from me that i have those feelings. I try and avoid triggers or people that make me feel low.

CatRamsey · 11/10/2020 16:39

All the time. Everyday. Including right now. I'd love to be dead. I don't want to be alive but I stay because I don't want to upset my mum. We're close but I often resent her because I feel like it's her fault I'm in pain everyday.

sugarlost · 11/10/2020 16:44

I’ve thought about it for years. Some people are so lucky the thought never crosses their mind. MH is so hard...reach out for support @MermaidwithoutacauseFlowers.

Juanmorebeer · 11/10/2020 16:48

I've luckily never thought of it before for myself, ever.

I do have to deal with it at work though so I have 'thought' about it when dealing with other people.

Never made plans or anything though.

mintich · 11/10/2020 16:53

I think about it but more like an intrusive thought, it's not something I've thought about actually doing.

FAQs · 11/10/2020 16:56

Very often but what @ChaChaCha2012 says is really interesting.

I’ve had the thoughts for years op, and it only occurred to me fairly recently there is a very strong pattern connected to my period.

I’m pleased MNHQ haven’t deleted this because it should be talked about.

Sojo88 · 11/10/2020 16:56

I thought this was normal too. I often think about it but I know I am never genuinely considering it. Sometimes life is hard and I guess I use the thought to comfort me slightly but, like I say, I don't believe for a second I ever would. Thinking about it now I suppose it is strange to think this way.

1starwars2 · 11/10/2020 16:59

Both my first cousins took their own lives. Seeing the deep seated damage it wrought on everyone around them, I know that it is never an option.

Keepithidden · 11/10/2020 17:02

Often, usually daily. I've read a lot about ideation, and I'm comfortable with it for me. It's a fantasy almost, but one I probably will put into practice at some point. Needs a lot of prep work though, and I suspect that by the time that is done it will either have passed on, or I will be too far gone to stop it. FOG stops me for now for fortunately.

Anthilda · 11/10/2020 17:02

Every single day. It's an intrusive thought, some days it's a very strong thought that wont leave. Other days just a passing thought.

ComicePear · 11/10/2020 17:07

Only once - when I was 20 and my boyfriend dumped me. Never since then (that was 25 years ago).

WellThisWentWell · 11/10/2020 17:08

CatRamsey

All the time. Everyday. Including right now. I'd love to be dead. I don't want to be alive but I stay because I don't want to upset my mum. We're close but I often resent her because I feel like it's her fault I'm in pain everyday.

Oh, i felt that!

Qwom · 11/10/2020 17:10

I think about suicide every day. Sometimes the pull is stronger than not. Attempted at the end of May. Haven't SHed since July. Generally doing much much better!

Zippea · 11/10/2020 17:17

A lot. Most days, in fact. I did a depression and anxiety questionnaire with my therapist and answered truthfully. They didn’t seem concerned but it’s only reading this thread that I’ve realised it’s not normal

Levatrice · 11/10/2020 17:19

1-3 times a week maybe since I was about 13?

Depends what’s going on. Nowadays mostly every day but I won’t do anything about it.

SqidgeBum · 11/10/2020 17:20

I did when I was at my lowest at 17, but i couldnt do that to my parents. I also had some disturbing thoughts when i had my DD. I havent thought about it in a long time and it's definitely not something that I would consider normal for me.

NameChange9824 · 11/10/2020 17:20

Since lockdown, I've thought about it at least a couple of times per week, going up to multiple times per day in the bad times, and actively planning and starting to work towards the logistics on a couple of occasions.

Prior to that I had had several months of no thoughts at all and about a year of only thinking about it once a month or so which is about as good as it's ever been.

justanotherneighinparadise · 11/10/2020 17:20

All of the time at the moment but I don’t think it’s normal.

justanotherneighinparadise · 11/10/2020 17:23

I’m also really jealous of those who try and are successful. I think they are AMA I got brace, I don’t understand people who say these people are weak, I think the complete opposite.

justanotherneighinparadise · 11/10/2020 17:23
  • amazingly brave
june2007 · 11/10/2020 17:26

Somepeople here in seriouse need of help. What if you try and fail, you could be left brain damaged, or if you tried jumping paralysed. Who are the ones that suffer the ones that are left behind. Life is praciouse, you are worthy, believe it.

Butterer · 11/10/2020 17:29

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june2007 · 11/10/2020 17:32

Well I think it,s better then saying one is jealous of those that succeed. It becomes a bit like a proana site with those kind of posts.