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I need a hug :-(

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 16:08

Been off AD's for a few days after being on them solidly for 12 months and on and off for about 5-6 years. Today is a bad day to the point of what was the point of being on the tablets? Been a cow to my DD, stressed with DS2 and awful to DH. Had huge row this morning with him and he left for work without saying bye.

What would be worse, living like this forever or dying and missing out on seeing my children grow up and having Grandchildren.

Have no-one at all in the world. No family. Nobody I could ring and confess all this too.

Was going to name change as feel they are people on here who know me in RL but haven't let on, but what is the point?

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MascaraOHara · 05/10/2007 16:09

Oh NAB! step outside and take a few deep breaths.

On a scale of 10 how bad is the day feeling?

Is it the first bad day you've had since stopping?

TaLcsFromTheCrypt · 05/10/2007 16:18

have you stopped taking the AD's suddenly, or are you cutting down gently,NAB3?

Lulumama · 05/10/2007 16:21

did you cut down slowly

took me 3 months to come off ADs and there were some horrible side effects

why have you come off them?

do you feel better? have you had any counselling or therapy to deal with underlying issues?

Lulumama · 05/10/2007 16:21

you can always call the samaritans

TaLcsFromTheCrypt · 05/10/2007 16:26

yes, i agree lulu, the side effects / withdrawal symptoms can be horrid.

It took me a while too.

Your feelings may be magnified due to withdrawal symptoms NAB3

GP may be good call also.

Carmenere · 05/10/2007 16:29

Oh Nab you poor love (((((()))))). Ring your dh and tell him you are sorry and that you are having a bad day and that coming off the ad's is proving difficult. If you open the lines of communication with him he might be able to help you.

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 16:59

Posted answer and damn thing went!

Can't even be bothered to type it again. Anyone know how to get it back? Pressed open a new tab

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 17:02

Scale of one to ten? 15 then but 7 now thanks to support on here.

GP cut down dose to half for 2 weeks and then said stop. Said agnus castus would take its place but I don't know if he meant physcologically.

Had counselling but didn't find it helped.

Have chemical depression as well as emotional depression and no tablets are going to solve that.

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 17:15

DH says we are having lots of wine tonight but not so sure that is such a good idea..

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Lulumama · 05/10/2007 18:27

2 weeks sounds too quick, imo , not that i am a doctor

tablets can certainly help, but not cure . but you know that

but why feel worse if you don;t have to

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 18:29

I do have faith in the GP as he got me pretty much. He did say make an appointment to see him in a month if needed but felt I would be okay. I feel it is pointless going back on the tablets as in reality I need to be on them forever.

Had some wine and feel a bit wobbly. I am such a light weight when it comes to alcohol.

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handlemecarefully · 05/10/2007 18:29

Hold on in there NAB

VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/10/2007 18:30

oh too quick sweetie.

Too too quick. Also, my GP said that for AD's to work effectively (namely SSRI's) you need to be on them for about 2 years for things to balance out again, and then come off very very slowly.

Give yourself a chance lady. Why did you need to come off them?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/10/2007 18:31

Also - alcohol is a depressant. The last thing you need, IMO.

stressteddy · 05/10/2007 18:32

Love to you Nab. It sounds very hard and I can only wish you a calm and peaceful weekend. Keep talking to us all.

huggity, hug

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 18:32

GP always planned to take me off them after a year.

Will just have the one glass then. I don't drink a lot. Bad day and want to wind down.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/10/2007 18:34

why though?

Why only one year? Sorry - dont mean to interrogate you, but it seems almost as if your GP has set you up to 'fail' right from the start.

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 18:55

No idea why the year and don't feel you are interrogating me. Nice to have someone help.

To be fair, he really felt I would be fine and I did too.

Maybe I am reading too much in to it. Found out my Gran had died this week. I know things get all out of proportion with me too.

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tigger32 · 05/10/2007 19:12

NAB3, I have been where you are, i too have had both types of depression and still now have some very bad days .
I am seeing my second councilor at the mo and she is fab, much better than the first!
Have you tried asking your gp to refer you to someone different?
Also i find diet has alot to do with my mood, hard as it may be avoid too much coffee, chocolate and alcohol!
Most importantly keep talking

VeniVidiVickiQV · 05/10/2007 19:13

oh bloody hell NAB. No wonder you are having a bad time. Sorry to hear about your Gran

Give yourself a chance. There is nothing wrong with staying on AD's for longer. Really.

And the blowing things out of proportion, short temper and feeling alone - all huge symptoms of depression.

Go back to the docs and adjust the long term plan

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 19:20

Don't drink tea or coffee. Have cut down on chocolate and only have wine once or twice a week.

Poo!

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tigger32 · 05/10/2007 19:26

ok just keep talking and maybe go back to your gp!!
I really feel for you, can you talk to your husband?

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NAB3 · 05/10/2007 19:27

Hubby is great but he has to work and I can't keep ringing him.

Feel GP is pointless as may put me on tablets again but will have to come off them at some point.

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oooggs · 05/10/2007 19:32

I am sorry that you found out that your gran did the way you did

do you have anyone (rl/mn friends) you can physically talk to?

tigger32 · 05/10/2007 19:34

well there are plenty of us on here to talk to!

Being on ad is better than feeling this bad surely?