Minor/major accomplishments

[Newyearnewme2020]

Restarting the thread from earlier this year where we share our accomplishments which may be minor to others but for us mean a bit more.

It might be a good time with the new year coming and push us to try and achieve something small each day.

Im coming through postnatal depression and am finding myself unmotivated a lot but this morning I have washed, dried and straightened my hair (something which I haven't done for over a week ) and I'm just about to put a bit of make up on. My dp won't recognise me when he gets home

Please share any accomplishments no matter how small.

I wasn't intending to rebook the appointment because it was making me anxious but I had a funny turn at home yesterday so I did rebook it after all. That was my minor major thing!

@sugarplumfairy28 I am didn't know that Germany had a school system like that but it sounds brilliant. it's far too much for kids to be in for such long days when they are so little.

@Rowanberries Great news about the club. Also a mile on the treadmill is very impressive!

Well done PurpleFrames- rebooking is a definite achievement. Have you got a plan for helping yourself get there or do you work better if you don't overthink it?

I have done some washing and put some nice smelling body lotion on. I am trying to do one kind thing for myself every day.

Hi all, sorry I haven't been around the last few days. It's been my first full week back at work and I am tired and drained. I'm actually out in my car eating my lunch just to get some quiet time

@sugarplumfairy28 how is the week going now for you and your dd?

@Rowanberries I'm so glad they've accepted him in the club, I hope work is going ok

@PurpleFrames when is your new appointment booked for? Do you feel like you will be able to go this time?

@TooManyPlatesInMotion sometimes it really is minor things like having a nice smelling body lotion that can make us feel better. I too should join you in trying to do one nice thing for myself each day.

@Newyearnewme2020 it is a good thing to try to do. I focus on trying to do just small things, eg the body lotion, or some cheap but brightly coloured flowers for myself.

PurpleFrames The school system does take some getting used to, the early starts for one. Its swings and roundabouts though currently having problems with getting extra help for our DD, in comparison to the UK, German schools are a bit behind.

Newyearnewme2020 it started off OK, but then as predicted just gone down hill. She's still not sleeping properly, really difficult in the afternoons. Yesterday she didn't go to school at all, she ended up attacking my DH, in his attempt to get her off, slid her across the floor and she crashed into my bad knee. I was so angry because I managed a 6km and 4km go on the cross trainer and was surprisingly OK, and now barely able to walk. She did go in to school this morning, which is something, but I've gotten nothing at all done.

Does anyone know if there's one of self care sheets with a suggestion for each day of 2020 going around by any chance? We could use it as our "book club convo" haha

I made it to the appointment, doc wasn't cross I'd cancelled bcfore and upped my meds. I practised a few strategies to get there like going to the nearby corner shop to use up time rather than the waiting room which makes me panic and forget everything.

@TooManyPlatesInMotion I love a good bath and pamper

@sugarplumfairy2 oh my goodness :( how are your knee and your DH?..

@Newyearnewme2020 oh no- drained is not the ideal emotion to be feeling when your first week back... are they giving you too much work?

I'll go and look for a self care sheet for the year, it's a really good idea. If I find one I'll share it here.

@sugarplumfairy28 I'm so sorry to hear it's so difficult to access help for your dd there. If you don't mind me asking, does she have any diagnosis or is that also difficult to obtain there? I'm in Ireland and my ds was diagnosed with autism when he was 3. We were lucky to get the diagnosis that young though. There are two ways you can go to get a diagnosis here and I was just lucky that I fell in the fastest path for my area (and think someone on the team took pity on me when I rang them crying asking how I was supposed to tell preschool that they are doing assessments and he might get a diagnosis of something or might not). I've had to fight for support in school for him aswell but luckily I eventually got it for him.

How is your knee today? That was really good the distances you were managing to do, I hope you can recover quickly.

@PurpleFrames I'm so glad you made it to your appt. Your 'strategies' to get you there sound so familiar to me. Can i ask how you knew your meds needed to be upped? I think I may need to do the same myself but not sure.

I work as an accountant so my work is just mentally draining, as well as having a long distance to travel, I think the 5 days was just too much.

I got a few house jobs done already this morning which im quiet happy with, also think my diary I bought for work is working out well so going to buy one for home to try and keep on top of everything. Also dp will be able to look at and keep on top of things aswell.

I organised a dinner for this evening with my SIL's. Do you ever find that when you're having a good day you could make plans with someone and then when the day comes around you just don't feel up to it?
So my minor major achievement today will be if I manage to get to that (if I can't find a way out of it)

I found this one which is quite nice and simple and most of the things seem manageable

PurpleFrames my knee(s) are pretty awful anyway but this will have me limping around for weeks now. DH is fine, it wasn't severe and he overreacted.

Newyearnewme2020 honestly its a mess. It is almost impossible to get help without a formal diagnosis which comes with a special code, for insurance and funding purposes, and again they seem a little behind, an autism diagnosis is like a magic key, they know what that one is, and the diagnosis opens a lot of doors with regards to support. We moved here when she was 3, and that's when we really noticed some problems, even though looking back some were already there. Her psychiatrist (special paediatric clinic) was convinced she has High Functioning Autism but the ADOS test said no, and that is ultimately where we are stuck. The psychiatrist still thinks its that, and has been looking for other ways to provide evidence outside the ADOS test to get us a diagnosis. In addition to that we have provisional diagnosis' for SPD, severe anxiety, and ADHD. Our DD also has an superior result on the intelligence test. She is bilingual too. The school, weren't really taking us seriously until she had an anxiety attack the night before returning to school in October and cut her hair off, after that, and now there is a constant physical reminder they are suddenly more willing to listen. Our GP has also been really great but only able to call the specialists and nag them. Our DD won't go to the doctors, last time we tried we had her screaming in the street, throwing her shoes at passing cars, in absolute hysterics, our GP has offered to come see her in the park because of how severe her anxiety is. You've done really well to get a diagnosis at 3!! Well done for reaching the prized help.

I frequently make plans and when push comes to shove I just can't motivate myself. I have 2 string art projects at different stages and I keep thinking tomorrow I will do X and then tomorrow comes and I just want to sleep.

Today is a rough day anyway. It is the 1st anniversary of my dog passing away, my knee won't let me get up and do anything to take my mind off it. All I have done today is rearrange my son's hidden birthday presents so they are actually all hidden properly.

@Newyearnewme2020 the image is showing really blurry so I can't read the words :( don't know if that's for everyone?

On the meds my doctor just offered as this is a new med for me so have only been on the initial dose 3-4weeks. In the past have gone cold turkey off meds and then realised I feel worse- restarted and asked for an increased dose as it was obviously doing something.

"Do you ever find that when you're having a good day you could make plans with someone and then when the day comes around you just don't feel up to it?"
Yes! I think that is 95% of my life

Sorry @sugarplumfairy28 it sounds like a shitty day.
Franklyn shocked a child with such clear needs isn't being supported because of box ticking- that must be so frustrating..

PurpleFrames I can't read the text either, I thought it was just me
School is super frustrating! Over a year ago we had the education psychologist observe her at school, came up with a huge list of things to help DD and reasons for why, and none have been done, literally because of the box ticking. Since the end of October though her main teacher has been more accommodating, but the system isn't universal and each teacher is basically allowed to teach in whatever way they see fit. This year she has a 'new' Maths teacher (I say new, there is only 6 teachers at her school) he decided to go with an aggressive dominant approach, and in one lesson caused enough damage that she was signed off for 2 weeks and to date has no done no maths lessons this year. A brilliant day is every lesson except maths and I have to go to school and babysit her... currently she does as much or little as she can cope with.