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To feel too anxious to call the crisis team

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User45790730640237 · 15/12/2019 00:16

Not really an AIBU but posting here for traffic.

I'm feeling really low. I was hospitalised for a suicide attempt 6 weeks ago. Referred to the community mental health team and I now have the number for the crisis team to call if I feel like doing it again. Well I do, and I know I don't want to. I'm still reeling from the trauma of the hospital last time. It's like an intrusive thought that won't go away.

Can anyone tell me what happens when you call the crisis team? I know I need support but I can't handle the idea of a group of people turning up to my house when I'm in this state (and the house is in this state). All I want is for the thoughts to stop so I can get some sleep. I just can't bring myself to pick up the phone, there's too much uncertainty and what can they even do or say to make the situation better?

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Krazynights34 · 15/12/2019 00:22

Hi, I can totally understand how you feel.
Please call the crisis team.
I don’t have any experience of a crisis team, but I really wish I had before I did what I did last week.
Can you keep talking to us?
Can you tell us what’s going on for you?
Pm me if you need to/want to

Talula1993 · 15/12/2019 00:28

Hello

The support they will offer is pretty much keeping you safe and your mind occupied. The crisis team Is not typically that therapeutic its more seeing you through till you get through the hardest patch and then hopefully you can come up with a plan together going forward. I know that sounds wish washy but ultimately that is because it is. It isnt one service fits all, they do their best to listen, comfort, give self soothing techniques and keep you safe. It's worth calling anyway. Please do, no harm can come and they will not care in the slightest the state of your home. It sounds like distractions and calming words is what you need. I can not tell you how many will come (sometimes no one comes and they keep you on phone for a long time ) but I would think if you had 0 evidence of any threat they would only send a couple people anyway.

Krazynights34 · 15/12/2019 00:29

Don’t disappear OP..

WingingItSince1973 · 15/12/2019 00:33

Please call them and keep talking on here too ❤

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User45790730640237 · 15/12/2019 00:36

Sorry I didn't mean to disappear

I really don't want them to come to my house. The thought of it just takes me back to that feeling of exposure and vulnerability I had in the hospital

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sleepymummy2019 · 15/12/2019 00:38

They will try to help by listening to you - and sometimes this is enough to help with bad thoughts, having a chance to tell someone who won’t get upset about it. They will try to help you think of some ways you can distract yourself and keep yourself safe in the short term. They may even be able to speed up your CMHT referral, if your first appointment isn’t booked yet.

It would be very unusual for them to visit after a call like this, and if you don’t want them to come then they have to accept that. If they’d like to see you face-to-face then you could ask if you can come to them. But I don’t think they’ll suggest it tonight.

I think you should ring them.

Krazynights34 · 15/12/2019 00:40

Hey, I know how that feels. I have a child and had a health visitor and social services descend on me this week.
But... it was all with good intentions.
They literally won’t care about your house.
Are you alone right now?

sleepymummy2019 · 15/12/2019 00:41

Most crisis teams don’t have the staff to make home visits in the middle of the night, it’s probably a couple of people covering a whole city. You don’t need to worry about midnight visitors, really you don’t.

Even if you sound completely deranged in the phone (I’m sure you wouldn’t!), they can’t force you to have a visit. Or not without a warrant from a judge. So really, ring them now. They might be able to help.

Krazynights34 · 15/12/2019 00:44

Or try the Samaritans ?

SuzieSunshine · 15/12/2019 00:45

Anything you'd like to chat about on here? I'll be awake for a while.

ZippyLongstocking · 15/12/2019 00:45

Please ring

Thelnebriati · 15/12/2019 00:46

Hi OP.
The crisis team can talk to you on the phone, and they can bring meds if you need them. If you are having racing or intrusive thoughts, meds might be your best option.

They really don't care about things that don't matter, such as the state of your house. Please don't put off talking to them.

www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/crisis-teams-crhts/#howcouldithelpme

eaglejulesk · 15/12/2019 00:50

Please ring them. It might help just to talk, and if they do come to your house they really won't be worried about the state of it. They are there to help you, not judge you. Good luck, hugs, Flowers

WaitrosesCheapestVodka · 15/12/2019 00:51

The main function of crisis teams is to keep people out of hospital. They will be well accustomed to working with people who experience intrusive thoughts of suicide.

The crisis team in my trust (and all others I've known) will usually offer phone support overnight, booking in a visit in the daytime where necessary. You can ask to have this 'visit' at the team's base.

Hospital is traumatic, even when it's necessary. No one will want you re-admitted, their precise remit is to work with you to prevent this.

CrazyKittenSmile · 15/12/2019 00:53

What the crisis team will offer depends on your area. I have been seen by my local crisis team but I had to go to A&E, they didn’t come to me. From A&E I went to a different area of the hospital where they had a room with sofas etc I could be on in my own, I was seen by the team initially but then volunteers stayed up with me until I felt safe to go home, which was I think at about 3 or 4am. It’s a 24/7 service.

I think it’s unlikely the team will visit if that isn’t something you want (even if it is I’m not sure the service would exist), although many people in crisis will have their house in a state so I don’t think they’d judge on that if they did see it. But it’s more likely they will chat to you on the phone or suggest you head to the hospital.

Definitely worth phoning to see what they can offer and I hope they can help Flowers

CrazyKittenSmile · 15/12/2019 00:55

Sorry by my own I meant without other patients/ people in crisis around - people from the team and volunteers stayed with me. It wasn’t all focused on my mental health and it was largely just chatting about other things like pets and TV until my mind felt calm.

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User45790730640237 · 15/12/2019 01:00

I don't even know what I'd say to them. I've been seen in the last few weeks and had a CPN appointment but I just felt like a time waster. I can't explain what's wrong or why I feel like this. What's the point of calling when I have nothing to say

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Krazynights34 · 15/12/2019 01:04

Of course you have something to say.
Can you say how you are feeling in broad terms?
Sad...?
Utterly sick of everything?
They will listen.
If you can’t tell them, please tell us

Bootstraps · 15/12/2019 01:09

But OP, you do have something to say. Something important: you’re having thoughts of suicide. This is why the team exists and they should get why you’re calling even if you don’t explicitly say so.

How are you feeling now?

Apuddimgisneverenough · 15/12/2019 01:14

OP
Call the crisis team, talk to us

If you want to talk PM me please do , I worked in psych health for many years.

You say you’ve nothing to say, is it possible that you just cannot find the words ?

You aren’t a time waster, you matter. Please believe that .

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User45790730640237 · 15/12/2019 01:21

I think that’s exactly it, I can’t find the words and I’ve not been able to find them since the first time someone asked me if everything was ok before the suicide attempt. I can’t explain why I did it, and now that we’re past the immediate aftermath it’s causing strain in my relationship. Everything’s just falling apart and I don’t know how I’m meant to rebuild from here

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Apuddimgisneverenough · 15/12/2019 01:28

OP not having the words is ok, feeling like you aren’t in control is ok, feeling like your lost is ok
What’s not ok is you battling this alone
Please, please, please reach out
To me, to the other MN’s who have offered support, to the crisis team. If you’d like to speak on this thread, on pm or over the phone please just say. People are here on your thread because you matter and because you can’t find the words to articulate your feelings doesn’t make your need any less.
It’s fucking horrid, what you’ve been through is awful but tonight you do not have to feel alone - because you are not

Savingshoes · 15/12/2019 01:32

Do CT even answer the phone? I would ring Samaritans.
If you don't know what to say, why not just start with the last line you wrote "Everything’s just falling apart and I don’t know how I’m meant to rebuild from here..."

Apuddimgisneverenough · 15/12/2019 01:35

CRHT’s are 24/7

Bootstraps · 15/12/2019 01:41

You mention your relationship, are you physically alone right now OP?

It’s OK not to have the words. Just please know that your feelings matter.