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Anyone feel lower than I do?

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 14:38

I don't want to talk about me as I could easily start a new thread in this topic every day and that would be so self indulgent. However, here we are, Monday, rainy day, dh back at work a week early having had a week off to recover from an operation (but should be having two), me feeling like I want to shrink away and never be seen again. Yet I have a lovely family, house, life, etc so what is the matter with me?
What I want to know is, who is out there feeling like me? Perhaps if I read some genuine sad stories I will be able to pull myself together.

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Titania · 27/09/2004 14:40

i know how you are feeling atm lonelymum.....im thinking of reverting back to my old name of lonelymumof3 now.......

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 14:40

Oh hi Titania. What is the matter?

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Fizog · 27/09/2004 14:41

I feel pretty cr@ppy at the moment. You're cetainly not alone.

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 14:42

Titania - was it the tea yesterday or the housing problem getting to you?

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Titania · 27/09/2004 14:42

my mums trying to get back in touch with me again........and its thrown me a lot.....

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 14:42

Want to talk about ti Fizog or should I read other people's threads before starting my own wallow in self pity?

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Titania · 27/09/2004 14:42

as well as everything else!

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 14:43

Wow Titania. What has brought that on?

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Twinkie · 27/09/2004 14:43

Hello you two - can I join am 34 weeks pregnant - have terrible pains everywhere have reflux and am heaving and weeing myself all of the time, x2b being a tosser and I can't give up working cause I have to pay solicitor cause he won't give me as much as I should have inthe divorce so I have to travel into town part of the week, I hate my so called parents and am dreading them trying to contact me (it has already started) when I have DS.

But I have a wonderful DP and DD a lovely house and I am still unhappy today!!

Titania · 27/09/2004 14:44

dds birthday......she sent her a card.....not dd is asking why she doesnt see nanny anymore

Titania · 27/09/2004 14:45

hello twinkie.....it wont be long now love ....promise!!

AuntyQuated · 27/09/2004 14:45

Hi LM, i was thinking of you over the weekend as someone sent me an email which said how much their life had changed after taking up a new hobby. i will check with the sender before posting any details.
do you drive? you seem so good at helping out others on this site i think you would be good at some sort of advisory voluntary work. it would help boost your own self-esteem and help you meet others. i seem to remember that you live in quite a rural area so it may be hard to do this if you couldn't drive (but it wiuldn't be impossible)

if you eant to think about something else, try thinking about me and my poor ear . went to hosptal this morning with a tiny lump, Doc has removed it and left me with 3 stitches just below my lug! it is aching and pulling but worst of all - IT'S MY TELEPHONE EAR!!!!!

Fizog · 27/09/2004 14:49

Feel like I'm wallowing in self pity but would love to talk about it actually, although don't know what exactly is the main thing that's wrong. I'm desperately lonely at the moment, I'm tarribly stressed at work and uni, I'm trying to lose weight and have lost nothing (probably cos I keep stuffing my face). Could talk for hours/days so please don't let me start. Oh and I'm sick of everybody say '..but why do you need to lose weight, you look fine'

What's wrong with you Lonelymum?

Titania, I read your other thread but didn;t feel I could contribute as don't know your story...

Fizog · 27/09/2004 14:50

Twinkie - not long now pal. Just think of lovely lovely new ds and dd and lovely dp supporting you. (Still haven't heard about interview btw)

Galaxy · 27/09/2004 14:51

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Twinkie · 27/09/2004 14:52

I know only 6/7 long weeks of pissing myself everytime I cough and heave!!

Fizog am here for ages so let me know when!!

God you lot - what are we going to do life sucks doesn't it!!

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 14:53

Hello AuntyQ, you are so sweet! Yes I do drive and voluntary advisory work would appeal to me but I have no idea what it means in reality. Your telephone ear, eh? I know the answer to that one - get a hands free set!
Oh Titania, explain no more, I have read your thread about your mother. My advice, FWIW, would be to not contact her for the moment to allow your shock to wear off. I hate the thought of a child being deprived of their grandparents but if your mother abused you, I am not surprised you keep out of her way. She can't waltz back into your life when she feels like it, especially when children are involved.
Twinkie, can't help with the solicitor part, but the pregnancy problems, yes I know all about those. Remember every agonising moment as though it were yesterday. At least you know it will be over soon. Then all you have to worry about are the sleepless nights....

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 14:55

Fizog, when I am depressed I can't eat much - usually feel too sick and apathetic. Do you go the other way and comfort eat? That is a real bummer.

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Thomcat · 27/09/2004 14:56

Lonleymum, sorry to hear you are down and going throught a bit a rubbish time. Life is a bich sometimes isn't it babes. When i get down, about feeling as if I have so much to do, noi help, work busy, loads of things to sort out for Lotie re hospital appts and things i try and count my lucky stars. There is always some light, something to hold on to. It's okay to feel blue and to wallow a bit. Then you have to pick yourself up and think of the things that you havce in your life that you can be greatful for.
As my nan always used to ay when she was in pain and I'd say 'oh nan are you ok?' - she'd say ' yes darling, there's always someone worse off than me, I have a lot to smile about love'. And that's so true.
I felt a bit miserable last night after watching Filthy Dirty love, my sister has terrible OCD. But then I thought about Ken Bicknall and his family. Say no more aye.

Anyway, love to uyou, hope you feel better soon.
Try and find one small thing to smile about and let it go from there.

TC x

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 14:57

Twinkie, have you heard of those places where pregnant women can go and be pampered? Some women (very wealthy, mind) stay there weeks (kind of like a lying-in hotel) and even have their babies there. I longed for a day or two in a place like that when I was last pg. Could dp. since he is so lovely, arrange something like that for you? Just for a day I mean.

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Fizog · 27/09/2004 14:59

Yeah I do, I think. I hate it. I wish I went your way.

Do you ever get to the point where you just wonder what the point is? I have to force myself to do everything except eat and sleep.

And then I feel even worse because I know there are people out these who are so much worse off than I am in every sense. I have no right to feel miserable and wallow in self pity but telling myself that doens't work - just make me feel worse!

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 15:01

Thanks Thomcat. I was trying to take your nan's approach (my grandma was like that too - can't old people be such an inspiration?). Trouble is, I couldn't think of anyone I know worse off than me which is why I asked all you out there to show me what a spoilt cow I am, being depressed for no real reason. (Off now to have a bit of a weep about my darling grandma - dead for 6.5 years now but still sorely missed)

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Lonelymum · 27/09/2004 15:02

Yes Fizog with you completely there

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Thomcat · 27/09/2004 15:05

Ken Bigley, feel so bad I got his name wrong before.

i miss my nana to Lonleymum. Why don't you go and light a little candle for her and have a chat with her. Tell her how you're feeling. The when you have finished, wash your face, take a deep breath and do something, phone a friend you haven't spoken to in a little while, clean the oven, go out and buy something nice to make for dinner, wash your hair, paint your nails, anything, just be pro active. While you're doing it think of how healthy and happy your children are, think about a nice time you had with htem, or think about a nice day out you had with a friend, however many years ago that was and be happy for it, be graetful that you had that day.

I know it's easier said then done babes.

Thinking of ytou, TC

tammybear · 27/09/2004 15:06

sorry ur feeling low lonelymum. im feeling rather crap at the moment. its been the worst monday ever so far. didnt want to get out of bed this morning but had to cos of Tumble Tots. dd threw tantrums and hit her head on the wooden floor, because she wouldnt share with one of the boys there and wouldnt sit still for song time. I then went home and had forgotten my keys so was locked out so mum had to come of work. And then this afternoon, someone came to look at my guttering and he was a real jerk. Thank god he werent round long. And also dd fell down the stairs head first Just wondering what else can go wrong...