yes i am........

[Titania]

and i have no idea why really......just feel like nothing will get any better, our families will always argue, and we will be stuck in this flat forver and i will never get round to having another baby...... Everything just seems to be a constant battle atm......

Hi Titania, why are you arguing, what's wrong? Things seemed so positive for you recently.

Oh sorry you are feeling blue Titania.

As you know i do know how you feela nd understand completely about your housind probs and the baby thing too.

You have to remember that things will get better. You are going through a rough patch right now and i know it seems like it will always be like this but please don't despair.

Have you spoken to your council again yet ???

me and DH arent arguing.....things are great between us...well, occasionaly we have a bad day but doesnt everyone?....i dont know CQ...i just feel like i dont really have anything to look forward to.......

yes nutty....council still no help...feel like i am bashing my head against a brick wall

oh dear - sympathy/hug/cup of tea emoticon required here.....

a couple of possible approaches here:-

approach 1 - look at speaking to GP etc and looking at possible treatment for depression - ADs/counselling

approach 2 - try out the non-medical approach to treating depression - regular eating/sleeping (i know, you'll laugh at that one with 3 under 5!), yoga/meditation/exercise, having a bit of a break/indulgence, and finding a decent self-help book that doesn't waffle on about your inner child, but gives you a bit of cognitive therapy - i.e. helps you to help yourself boost your self-esteem, and judge yourself more positively and think less negatively.

approach 3 - do a list of what can be changed, and break it all down into teeny stages as to how to achieve them - some things are out of your control - awkward families, but somethings are in your control - having another baby, but you need to work out the housing issues before doing that

what sort of approach would seem best to you atm?

God you sound so much like i felt when we were in the flat.

I'm not sure what to say really, am crap at giving advice but regarding the housing you have to keep fighting, even when you feel like hiding under your quilt.

I found giving myself one thing to do regarding the housing every day made me feel a bit better as i was actually doing something.

honestly MTS??? packing up and sodding off

ok but what does that translate to? staying with your nan/cousin by yourself for a few days? thats achievable.

no i mean completely sodding off.........had enough now

how much sleep have you had over the last 48 hours?

don't underestimate how crap sleep deprivation can make you feel - it is a torture technique after all

i didnt sleep at all the night before...last night i think i slept ok

might still partly be that catching up with you.

maybe

Titania, are you registered with any H/A's ????
Would South Shropshire H/A be any good to you ??

I've just had a quick look on their website and if you apply to them they automatically put you on the list for loads of other H/A's too.

Sorry don't know which part of Shropshire you are in, so sorry if this is no help.

Would you consider moving away ???

Which coucilo are you with North shrops, south e.t.c

north nutty.......we cant afford to move away now anyway

North right o.k. I will get back to my digging then.

Do your coucnil board up the empty houses ???

We used to drive around a write down the boarded up ones and then i would hassle the council about them until i actually saw that it was occupied again.

no they dont nutty

and the next house that is coming empty wont be ours either.......i was talking so someone at m&t the other day and she was saying how she has just been put on the homeless list this week.....so there goes another hope of a house......

Just had a look at your councils website and they seem to be in the middle of making changes to their housing service.

It is asking people to email their suggestions.

I would definatly email them outlinning your case and your disgust at people getting out in front of you all the time. Alot of councils have stopped this now.

Also reccomend that they adopt a scheme similar to \link{http://www.derbyhomefinder.org\this where you register with them and they then advertise all empty properties council or H/A and people apply for them. Depending on which band you were in and how many apply you stand a good chance then of getting something.

Sorry i'll try again

here

thanks nutty

Titania sorry you're feeling so low I know very little about your housing situation but just wanted to say thinking of you, I had a crap day yesterday and for tuppence could have spent the day under the bed covers Hope you are feeling a bit brighter soon

cant seem to find on the website where they are going to make changes though?!